Thank you everyone !!!! I will prepare with the advise given and I will be ready this Sunday not teach my wife, but just guide her and let her come to her own conclusions.
I also wanted to give you guys an update.
My wife's 19 year old son came back to the house but he is standing his ground. (I am happy to hear that) He also stated how he will not dump his new girlfriend, that he is going to find a new job and save some money and move out of the house.
When his mom said that he had to follow rules and if he did not change, their relationship was going to change in a drastic way. Her son bravely stated that he understood how her religion makes her act this way and that he is not going to allow the elders to pick on him
It was also impressive that during the conversation his mom told my wife her son was calm and not disrespectful or rebellious .
I wish I had this same attitude when I was 19. Now I want to find out if he knows TTATT
Now BTW, my wife is a hard cookie to crack but I have to take it slow in order to avoid getting turned into the elders at this point. I am still preparing myself financially and I want my family to have a better foundation once I leave.