Quite which qualities are totally male or female is a matter of debate. When I was growing up we looked to the Hollywood hunks as role models. Actors like Rock Hudson, Carey Grant, James Dean, Burt Lancaster - you know the real men.
Turns out they were either gay or bi-sexual. Perhaps we are just more honest now and free to present what we are to the world instead of presenting what we think the world wants us to.
A lot of outwardly feminine men are straight and big hairy types can be gay. There are no rules and why should there be?