The most insensitive thing ever said to me didn't come from an elder or CO, but a Circuit Overseer's wife, well wife at the time. (They divorced sometime later.) Her name was Sister Shield, don't ask me her first name, because I have since forgotten. For some reason, this woman took a huge disliking to me. I was just married and had moved to my husband's town, and his congregation. On the first meeting, I was there when she was also there, she demanding why I was even attending this congregation, in a very unfriendly tone.
Tameria2001
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What is the most insensitive thing an Overseer or Elder has ever said and done to you?
by RULES & REGULATIONS inwhat is the most insensitive thing an overseer or elder has ever said and done to you?
i have had many insensitive things said to me by some elders, but for some reason one self-righteous elder was always on my case.
he didn't like the fact that i missed meetings, didn't like that i never went out in field service, that i didn't answer at the weekly meetings and he didn't like that i carried my books and magazines in my hands and not a service/book bag.
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UGHHHHH Wife wants to pioneer. Our future together doesn’t look promising
by goingthruthemotions inughhhhh wife wants to pioneer.
our future together doesn't look promising .
i told her she doesn’t know what she is getting into.
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Tameria2001
My suggestion (you can take it or leave it) would be to go ahead and not give her a hard time signing up to pioneer, but...
Now when I say but, make sure you push her to get all her required hours, even if she doesn't want to or complains that she is tired. Tell her being tired is not an excuse, you got to give your all, plus more because that is what is required. Make sure you don't make things easy at home. She must still fix the meals, clean the house, and all that goes with it, including the wash. If you have children, she must make sure the kids come first, sick kid, it will be up to her to care for them.
She wants to pioneer, does not mean that you are going to take up the slack at home. Make sure that she knows this is what is going to happen if she signs up.
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Would You Be Comfortable Wearing Political Attire or Putting Political Bumper Stickers?
by minimus insome people get triggered if they see something they don’t like.
you can’t even talk about your preferences with some people because they get very upset.
would you freely talk about politics or show who you support?
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Tameria2001
No, all it would do is cause trouble, and I prefer my life to be simple and uncomplicated. I've already had too much bullcrap to last me a lifetime already. Also saying that I am what most would consider a conservative, but only for two reasons. The first is because the left has gone so far left, even those who consider themselves a moderate, or someone in the middle, they now appear on the right. The second, I have a couple of relatives who are die-hard liberals and let's just say one of those relatives has not spoken to his mother in over two years because of their political disagreement. The mother has tried to keep the lines open, but her son has not. To me, the Democratic party feels just like the Watchtower.
Personally I feel that life is just too short for this type of nonsense.
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Needing to Questions Elders to Help Husband Understand
by Unlikely-pack-6349 inmy husband insist that i talk to the elders.
it is something i 100% plan on doing for the simple fact of my relationship with him.
i know some of you may disagree but it seems like the best option for us.. problem/question: .
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Tameria2001
You are correct meeting with the elders will eventually open his eyes to how the elders really are, and that is that they are not there to help, but he won't get it at that time. I won't tell you how you should go about this, but at one point in time, I was just like your husband. At the time of the meeting, I did not realize it either, but it was ONLY after several things hit even closer to home. After that meeting my husband and I had with the elders, it still took me another four years before it took me to finally put it all together. Even after deciding for myself to leave, it took me another 18 years after leaving the Watchtower to finally be truly free, but that is a whole another topic altogether.
What I am trying to say, this will not be an immediate result, but a very bumpy and long road once you start down it. Whatever you do, don't push. It will be up to him to come to this decision on his own.
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They are giving a beautiful witness of Jehovah's Organization
by Tameria2001 inthey are giving a beautiful witness of jehovah's organization, now let us see the fruits of their labor blossom.... ...nah i can't say that with a straight face.
let me back up and explain why i said that.
as many of you know that my husband's mother had been fighting cancer.
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The funeral was at 2 pm today, but there was another held at 4 pm. We ended up going to the later one, so we didn't have to deal with the JWs. We were hoping to go to the visitation yesterday but was not allowed to, because of a certain JW @$$hole. The JWs had the 2 pm service, filled with their Watchtower propaganda, but the second one was held by her relatives who are not JWs. It was a beautiful service that held all the memories of the one who passed away.
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Did you feel contempt for Non Witnesses
by Steel inthe other day i went to this farm owned by this jw lady with my wife being a jw and my mother being a non witness.
later taking to my mother she noticed this vibe like this jw lady really hated her.
she just had these little slags like when we tried to pay for the fruit we picked , she looked directly at my wife and said " don't worry about it, i only charge wordly people ".. i also have this aunt who is a jw we are estranged from.
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You are not wrong, and it isn't just you. Something I am noticing though that the hate you are seeing/talking about is much worse now than it was when I was an active JW. I'm just wondering how much longer it will be before the rank and file take things in their own hands towards their disdain towards people who are not JWs.
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I Dont Want My JW Family To Wake Up
by pale.emperor init's come to the point now, after being out almost 5 years, that i've come too far with my life, acheived the things i wanted (or i'm on the road to), did the things i wanted to do and have reached a happy and satisfactory life.. i did all this on my own apart from exjws such as yourselves online for support.
after reaching a place where i finally dont think about wt everyday and stopped getting emotional or worked up about my former jw life i'm glad to simply live my life and let others get on with theirs.. but, if my family were to leave and get in touch i'd have to deal with all that shit again.
i'd have to deal with people who's personality i deliberately removed from my life as i was building an authentic nonjw life.. my mother would likely still be closed minded and homophobic.. my sisters would likely still live for gossip and social media stalking.. my cousins would likely still put on a pretence of wealth to impress those around them.. i really cant be doing with such people.. it sounds bad, but i really hope they stay in.
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Tameria2001
I know exactly how you feel about this. At this point in time, I have had only one sister leave the JWs as well, but our relationship is nonexistent. This is because of how she treated me after leaving it, and would still be if I would allow it. My relatives (including those who are not JWs) are very toxic and negative people. That I do not need, or would I ever want back in my life.
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Governing Body members will no longer be with us on earth during ''the great tribulation''
by RULES & REGULATIONS inthe watchtower—study edition | october 2019. .
study article 41. stay faithful through the “great tribulation”.
14 during the great tribulation, a change will take place regarding the brothers who take the lead on earth.
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Tameria2001
I really hope to see what happens with those criminals is that they are "raptured", only to be found while attempting their escape".
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They are giving a beautiful witness of Jehovah's Organization
by Tameria2001 inthey are giving a beautiful witness of jehovah's organization, now let us see the fruits of their labor blossom.... ...nah i can't say that with a straight face.
let me back up and explain why i said that.
as many of you know that my husband's mother had been fighting cancer.
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They are giving a beautiful witness of Jehovah's Organization, now let us see the fruits of their labor blossom...
...NAH I can't say that with a straight face. Let me back up and explain why I said that. As many of you know that my husband's mother had been fighting cancer. Yesterday evening she finally lost that fight and passed away. Her funeral will be on Friday. Her obituary was posted online today, and this was brought to our attention by her sister (my husband's aunt, not a JW, never has been) In her obituary it talked about her parents, her marriage, her siblings, and those who preceded her in death. It talked about her two children and her four grandchildren. The issue is that she has 3 living children, 6 grandchildren, and one great-grandson that were NOT included in her obituary.
When my husband's aunts both saw this they were livid. The eldest talked to her brother-in-law (my husband's father) about this, and apparently things got very heated between the two. Don't know was talked about yet, but apparently he threw some very nasty threats at her about my husband. Yes, we will be attending the funeral because my husband did not get a chance to say his goodbyes to his mother while she was still alive, but we will be going with her two living sisters.
Also attending will be several other close relatives to my mother-in-law, who are not JWs, and never have been. We are getting word through the grapevine that this obituary fiasco, is not sitting well with them. The funeral will not be taking place at the Kingdom Hall, but at the cemetery, I'm assuming because of the COVID threat. Normally I don't attend any JW funerals, but I am this time for two reasons. The first because I am going to be there to support my husband, and second just to see what is going to happen.
I'll update everyone here sometime after I get back.
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Flu Vaccine Now REQUIRED For All Students Going To School In Massachusetts
by minimus inthis is a requirement now in massachusetts.
children must get a flu shot by december 31. some allowances are made for religious reasons and health reasons.. personally, i don’t agree with the government making this mandatory.. what is your opinion?
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Tameria2001
I too was excited when they came out with the varicella vac. But that didn't protect my sons from getting the chickenpox, and they both had the vac twice also.
I was talking to my neighbor about the flu shot (he has two daughters in elementary school). The bad thing about getting the flu shot in August (this is when school starts here), it will be a hit and miss thing, because at that month they do not know which strain of flu will be the one affecting people. Those were his words.
Before anyone calls me one of those people who are against vac, this is not the case. Both my children had all the required vacs. I'm just opposed to forcing people to get the flu shot, from my own personal experience with it.