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Long time lurker FINALLY joining

by HBH in

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hi, i've been lurking here for several years and i finally registered.

first i would like to thank the hosts and members for all you do.. .

i'll just give a breif history, i'm a single male mid 40's living in the southeast us.

HBH

Thanks LoisLane!

I've been reading the posts about the yearbook here, and yea, things are a lot clearer when you are out of lala land. I hope your fade is going well, and is not too destructive to get out. The org is NOT Spirit directed (among other things) and we all start a new journey after knowing TTATT.

Funny, I keep looking down to see if I have a big letter "S" on my chest.

Just a reply to Terry about having one foot in each world, it's more like dipping a toe in the other world once and a while to keep peace, at least that's how it is in my current situation.

HBH

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The Naughty Reason For Cornflakes

by metatron in

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http://www.mentalfloss.com/blogs/archives/157425.

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keep your hands off my 'lucky charms".. metatron (rimshot!

HBH

My new company will start manufaturing Porn Flakes to compete.

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Hi All - Finally Posting Here!

by Pyramid Scheme in

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first off, i owe this site a tremendous debt of gratitude.

i have been an inactive witness for 4 glorious years, and the spark that began my fade out of the organziation was this site and paul's jwfacts.com.

it opened my eyes to a whole new world of insight, and i discovered that there were so many people out there like me - still a "spiritual" individual, but completely disgusted with the jw organization.

HBH

Welcome, I'm new too.

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JW's Sandy Respond Show off

by pixel in

this just post on their website:.

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http://www.jw.org/en/news/by-region/americas/united-states/video-clip-hurricane-sandy-relief/.

HBH

Yea, getting that helocopter thru the needle's eye could be a problem.

HBH

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Your earliest doubt?

by Apognophos in

this might be an unfair question for those who have been out of the organization for decades, but i'm wondering if any of you remember your earliest doubt -- maybe something odd that occurred to you as a kid (if you were a jw then).

please try to limit to two doubts at the most :-).

i think my first "doubt" was simply realizing that at the time of the flood, every animal that wasn't in the ark died (well, besides the fish, supposedly).

HBH

Good thread. My first doubt, ironiclly, was before I came in. I accepted a study, but wasn't serious the first time. Some bros would come by once a week, and we'd drink some beers during it. (I would do some bong hits before hand). Anyway, they would leave the mags, and later my friends and I would make fun of the pictures, ect.
Later I had a crisis, and turned to the Borg, and they love bombed me, and it worked. I skiped the red flags for 10 years. After being in a messed up hall for a few years, and with the help of the internet, the fog cleared, and I started having my "never again" moments.

Well no use crying over spilled milk,
HBH

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Long time lurker FINALLY joining

by HBH in

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friends

hi, i've been lurking here for several years and i finally registered.

first i would like to thank the hosts and members for all you do.. .

i'll just give a breif history, i'm a single male mid 40's living in the southeast us.

HBH

Thanks again for the warm welcome! And a to the single ladies.

I vanished and cut all ties from the cong where my card is, no family there. They could probably find my address if they really tried, but it's been five years. The main thing is my JW parent who would be heartbroken if found out I was out of the org.

All the best,

HBH

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Need Some Tough Love & Help

by Simon Morley in

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not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

HBH

Sorry to hear about her reaction, it seems she is reviling you. (In JW world, that would be a DFing offence) Obviously, there is a deeper problem. I hope counseling helps, and wish you the best.

HBH

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Long time lurker FINALLY joining

by HBH in

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friends

hi, i've been lurking here for several years and i finally registered.

first i would like to thank the hosts and members for all you do.. .

i'll just give a breif history, i'm a single male mid 40's living in the southeast us.

HBH

Thanks for the welcome!

Fortunately, I never married, making my ditching a lot easier, but the borg has got some of my family in a total train wreck, and I feel for all those suffering. Shunning is wrong.

What got me really annoyed lately was seeing the movie on jw.org on the annual meeting, and seeing the bling on the GB. At least three of them had gold rings on their right hand! Who's paying for that?

Alright, I'll try to keep on the "sunny side".

HBH

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Need Some Tough Love & Help

by Simon Morley in

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friends

not sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.

yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.

i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.

HBH

I'm new here, but would like to help if I can. Remember that women generlly deal with problems talking. She will also need to understand male sexuallity. Men are hardwired with the ability to seperate and combine sex and love exclusivly. It is not a betrayal if you, for instance, had a dream of having sex with someone that is not your wife, and vise versa.

You have done the right thing, you have been honest and this was not deliberate, just a weakness, and have asked for forgiveness.

How this runs it's course will now be up to her behavior. No matter how close she is to her/your daughter, she should not be told about this, or if so, at the very least untill after the issue has run it's course. And IMO you should request that. If she acts vindictivly, and does not forgive you. She would be creating a much greater problem and that would be far worse than what you have done.

To err is human, to forgive is divine.

HBH

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Long time lurker FINALLY joining

by HBH in

jw
friends

hi, i've been lurking here for several years and i finally registered.

first i would like to thank the hosts and members for all you do.. .

i'll just give a breif history, i'm a single male mid 40's living in the southeast us.

HBH

Hi, I've been lurking here for several years and I finally registered. First I would like to thank the hosts and members for all you do.

I'll just give a breif history, I'm a single male mid 40's living in the southeast US. Was born in, one parent a JW, they divorced when I was very young. JW parent took me to meetings until I was 14 and said I did'n want to go anymore. When I was 22 some JW's contacted me via door to door, I told them my story and I they started a study with me, but when they realized I wasn't changing it ended. I lived a life of pleasures/drugs from age 14 until I had a moment of personal dispair at age 24. I quit drugs and quit my freinds, and contacted the JW's I was previously studing with. I was baptized 6 months later, and shortly after was appointed MS. A few years later I moved to a new congregation several thousand miles away. My eyes started to slowly open.

After a few years I didn't want to be a MS anymore, so I quit, I firmly told the elders it was personal issues and I no longer met the quilifications. (and my service time was low.) My eyes were opening more and more, but I still made meetings. About 5 years ago I moved 500 miles away. I went to a meeting, but didn't get a good vibe. Next week I went to a meeting at a different hall, and after the public talk I said to myself "I can't listen to this any more", and I walked out the door, and have not been in a KH since. I changed my phone number and my old hall still has my card.

So you could say I successfully ditched 'em, but the clincher is my family and freinds that are in. Well since they are far away, I basicly lie to them telling them I am active, under the idiology of "what they don't know won't hurt them". Keeping up with the info on this site has been very helpful.

I still believe in many JW doctrines, but it is clear the the org is corrupt.

Thats it for now
HBH