So sorry for your loss. All of us that have lost a beloved furrbaby can relate to your pain. We recently lost our 20 year old ragdoll cat. My husband cried like a baby. He thought that we should wait to get another but my theory was that every day that I wait is a day in my life without a cat so when he went to work I researched the SPCA and found a perfect kitten. He came home and there he was. He admits that our kitten has brigtened our lives. We will always miss our old cat but take comfort in knowing that she had a long happy life. We also have a 10 year old dog who is a loved and treasured family member.
ingimar
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I lost my pet today...
by tooktheredpill inshe was a 12 year old maltese.
the best pet in the world.
my wife and i never had kids, so she was our only daughter.
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Atheism and the delusion of meaning
by Laika inin the movie annie hall, written by woody allen, as a young boy, alvy's mother, takes him to see a doctor as he appears to be dealing with some kind of depression.
when the doctor asks alvy what's up, alvy explains that he just found out the universe is expanding, everything will spread out and go cold and die, therefore nothing he does matters, so he is not going to do anything anymore.
most people might see this as a joke, but i think woody is trying to make a serious point.. the point here is about meaning.
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ingimar
Someone has too much time on their hands! I am too busy enjoying my life to even let these silly thoughts creep into my delusional, ignorant but happy brain. I do know that when I am laying on my death bed that I will leave this life a lot more content and fullfilled than Laika.
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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ingimar
jgnat. Thanks. I have read the book Combatting Cult Mind Control and it is excellent. I think that I will reread it. Idid try the "put yourself in my shoes"approach and I think that it sort of made him think for a bit. Will have to retry that to. I did have Breaking Amish on one night but he tried to switch channels. When I said I was watching that, he went to another TV. I like the idea of a plan but not sure what I would write down except "stay calm".
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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ingimar
Thanks all, some great info. I will try and restrain myself from doing something that I would regret. I just need to calm down! I like the idea of playing the victim but not a crazy victim just a sad and concerned victim.
I really can't see my husband reading any literature that he sees as trying to lure him away. Perhaps in time. He also will not talk and if I ever try to ask a question, he instantly turns into cult husband. I have told him that it is very sad that we can't talk about this but I guess that is how it will be. I have a really hard time not bringing up things but I must try for a while.
A good thing is that my husband is very passionate about many things outside of the JWs. I told him once that he could never be a good JW as he didn't have the time and he did agree with that. That is hopeful but sometimes I think that he just stays busy to keep his mind off the JWs or perhaps it is to keep his mind off of the seeds of doubt that have been planted. Who knows.
I do need to try and make our non jw life happy for I know that when I turn into crazy wife that I push him one step closer towards them. Just not sure that I have the energy for all this restraint on my behalf.
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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Thanks Listener. I have Crisis of Conscience in a pdf format but my husband would never consider reading it. He doesn't even know that I have it. I have also read both of Steven Hassan's books which are excellent and again, my husband doesn't know that I have them. He will not listen to TTATT....at all! He becomes very angry if I bring up anything anti JW. I hope that I have planted some seeds of doubt but I am not sure. I know there are some things that he does not believe in. One is the JW's stance on charities. My husband always donates to charities and also supports a foster child through world vision. I think that they are a bit of a scam too but I fully support him in this and tell him how generous he is and what a good thing he is doing. My husband also does not believe in shunning family members which doesn't affect him personally as he doesn't have family or friends in the organization.
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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ingimar
Yeah you are both right. I just wish that this elder would become aware of this stuff without me having to tell him. Perhaps he will drive by sometime after a meeting and see my husband's vehicle in the driveway.
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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ingimar
There are some things that I wish the local congregation knew about my husband but I am not sure how to inform them.
My husband was a JW in a previous marriage but none of his family are JW's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time. His ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the JW's.
I met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony. I should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian". I know now that a real christian would at least specify catholic or protestant.A couple of weeks into our relationship, he told me that he was a JW. I was shocked but ignorant of the religion so carried on. It didn't seem to affect anything because he was obviously inactive because he never went to meetings. I know now that I should have done more research but never saw the need to at the time. If he was a good JW! he would not have been looking for a wife on eharmony, right?
We lived together for 3 years before we got married in 2008. All was great until last summer when we returned from visiting his long lost sister and her elder husband overseas. Like I mentioned, these two are the only JW's in his very large immediate and extended family. Also, none of his friends are JW so I was pretty confidant that he would never go back. Well shortly after we return, an elder starts showing up at our door repeatedly. My husband works out of town so for the first couple of months, I am able to tell him that I am not interested and send him away. Well this guy is a pest and he eventually catches my husband at home and in November my husband starts attending the Hall, I start researching and start freaking out. Yes, I know that is exactly how they tell him I will react.
Shortly after he starts attending every second Sunday, I get diagnosed with a rare blood disease. Coincidence? I think not. I am not supposed to get stressed and this JW stuff is totally stressing me out as I see my husband becoming more involved with this cult. My husband can see how stressed I am and he knows that I am just about ready to leave so he announces that he can't stand to see me like this so he won't attend for a while. I am shocked but I thank him. He has not attended now for probably 6 weeks.
The elder continues to drop by but now only when my husband's vehicle is in the driveway as he does not like talking to me! My husband just tells him that he is working or will be away. I hear thus because I open the window and listen.
I would love for them to find out that we met online, we lived together for three years before we got married, he celebrates holidays with me and his family, not always willingly but his family and I force him to participate and he has a good time, he is not always working when he says he is and also that his worldly wife thinks nothing of trashing the JW's. I know that I have to control myself but I have a really hard time doing that. I am going to try harder though.
My question is how can I make this pesty elder aware of all his faux pas? My husband would not be happy if I called him up and told him but I will if this marriage is going to fail.I still hold out hope though as I know that he loves me andcI love the non-cult him.
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Stickers (complete with QR Code) for Laundromats
by nicsfreedom inaccording to one of our friends who visits our local laundromats the literature is out of control.
guess its time to do some real educating aka jw un-witnessing.
throwing the mags away just keeps the dubs bring back more (and counting placements) so with my friend and husbands help we are going to "stick it to the watchtower" literally:).
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ingimar
I sent you a PM with a request.
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Who the hell are the Ninja Witnesses who keep...
by sooner7nc in...sneaking into my hospital while i'm there and leaving magazines in all my waiting rooms?.
it's like they have predator suits or something.
pesky boogers.. by the way, if the person or persons who are doing this ever read on this site please know that i pick them up within 30 minutes of your leaving them.. .
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oops. I see I took too long to post suggestion.
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Who the hell are the Ninja Witnesses who keep...
by sooner7nc in...sneaking into my hospital while i'm there and leaving magazines in all my waiting rooms?.
it's like they have predator suits or something.
pesky boogers.. by the way, if the person or persons who are doing this ever read on this site please know that i pick them up within 30 minutes of your leaving them.. .
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ingimar
Perhaps instead of throwing them out you should have a sheet of pre-printed labels, directing readers to jwfacts.com, jehovahs-witness.net, watchtowerdocuments.com and any other TTATT sites. Put the label across the front of the magazine and leave it there.