There are some things that I wish the local congregation knew about my husband but I am not sure how to inform them.
My husband was a JW in a previous marriage but none of his family are JW's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time. His ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the JW's.
I met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony. I should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian". I know now that a real christian would at least specify catholic or protestant.A couple of weeks into our relationship, he told me that he was a JW. I was shocked but ignorant of the religion so carried on. It didn't seem to affect anything because he was obviously inactive because he never went to meetings. I know now that I should have done more research but never saw the need to at the time. If he was a good JW! he would not have been looking for a wife on eharmony, right?
We lived together for 3 years before we got married in 2008. All was great until last summer when we returned from visiting his long lost sister and her elder husband overseas. Like I mentioned, these two are the only JW's in his very large immediate and extended family. Also, none of his friends are JW so I was pretty confidant that he would never go back. Well shortly after we return, an elder starts showing up at our door repeatedly. My husband works out of town so for the first couple of months, I am able to tell him that I am not interested and send him away. Well this guy is a pest and he eventually catches my husband at home and in November my husband starts attending the Hall, I start researching and start freaking out. Yes, I know that is exactly how they tell him I will react.
Shortly after he starts attending every second Sunday, I get diagnosed with a rare blood disease. Coincidence? I think not. I am not supposed to get stressed and this JW stuff is totally stressing me out as I see my husband becoming more involved with this cult. My husband can see how stressed I am and he knows that I am just about ready to leave so he announces that he can't stand to see me like this so he won't attend for a while. I am shocked but I thank him. He has not attended now for probably 6 weeks.
The elder continues to drop by but now only when my husband's vehicle is in the driveway as he does not like talking to me! My husband just tells him that he is working or will be away. I hear thus because I open the window and listen.
I would love for them to find out that we met online, we lived together for three years before we got married, he celebrates holidays with me and his family, not always willingly but his family and I force him to participate and he has a good time, he is not always working when he says he is and also that his worldly wife thinks nothing of trashing the JW's. I know that I have to control myself but I have a really hard time doing that. I am going to try harder though.
My question is how can I make this pesty elder aware of all his faux pas? My husband would not be happy if I called him up and told him but I will if this marriage is going to fail.I still hold out hope though as I know that he loves me andcI love the non-cult him.