As jgnat did my younger children have been given freedom with their money. They make their own choices. However if they come back as adults they're going to catch Hell. My wife and I have worked too hard to have to raise them as adults. We are going to enjoy our time after the kids are gone. They can enjoy their lives. BTW I am raising women who will rule the world one day. I am not worried at all About my daughters.
Defianttruth
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What is it with teens/adults and dependency on everyone else?
by punkofnice ini've seen a lot of this lately here in the uk, where teens and young adults still depend on their parents when they live away from home.. some just don't seem able to earn enough.
some are on benefits.
some earn more than me and are in debt.
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What is it with teens/adults and dependency on everyone else?
by punkofnice ini've seen a lot of this lately here in the uk, where teens and young adults still depend on their parents when they live away from home.. some just don't seem able to earn enough.
some are on benefits.
some earn more than me and are in debt.
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Defianttruth
Why not military? I no longer prescribe to the idea that military service is evil. In fact, soldiers from the roman era where the first Non Jewish Christians. Every adult Roman was required to be a solder. Why not serve ones country? There is no biblical or moral evidence to not be a soldier only made up rules by modern Christians. I would be proud of my children for serving our country. I would be one of those wierd people with the "proud to be a soldiers parent" sticker on their car. To each his own I guess.
As far as me controlling their money, yes if you live in the house I pay for you don't get to blow your money on 100 dollar hair cuts, 200 dollar shoes drinks with your friends, nice steak dinners, or any other stupid items people spend money on. I will save your money for you and "help" you learn money management skills so you don't have to live with me. I make enough money on my own I don't need theirs it is not to take there money. It is for the purpose of making them uncumfortable. If you give some one a comfy chair they will sit all day give them a metal chair and they won't sit long.
Like I said,"you want to put on the big girl panties wear them"
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What is it with teens/adults and dependency on everyone else?
by punkofnice ini've seen a lot of this lately here in the uk, where teens and young adults still depend on their parents when they live away from home.. some just don't seem able to earn enough.
some are on benefits.
some earn more than me and are in debt.
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Defianttruth
Past, now, future. It doesn't change.
My girls have three choices in life.
1. Leave my house after high school graduation and you are on your own. If you want to put on your big girl panties wear them.
A. If you have to return to my house, your life will not be easy. You will work, cook, clean, and be a productive member of the house hold just like I am. I start my day at 5:00am and work until around 8:00 pm. If you don't like it stand on your own two feet and live by your rules.
B. If you live in my house, I will open an account with my name on it for your check to go into. I will decide how you spend your money not you. Again if you don't like it move out.
2. Go to college and I will help you through to your graduation.
A. If I am helping you it means you have not assumed the role of an adult. You will have to submit grades and attendance records to me. I will not waste my money throwing you a 4 year party.
B. I will not pay for any degree that doesn't have an employable value. We will do a monster.com search and see if your choice is a viable one. I don't give a shirt if you really, really love to dance. I will not pay for a dance education. If you want to do English lit. You will have a plan to become a teacher.
3. You may join the military.
A. I will help you for two years while you adjust to military life. I have no qualifications for this as Sargent some where will take care of that for me.
As far as people making excuses for this behavior it is sickening. Why do you protect your adult children from life? Because it makes YOU feel better. Period.
You want to protect your emotions rather than giving them a fair shot at life. It's horrible parenting. As far as being to expensive to live in an area. Move to Starkville, MS and you can go to Mississippi State for $3,000.00 per semester. You can deliver Pizzas, live frugally and make it happen. Work harder, and stronger than everyone else and you will rise to the top. If you choose not to work hard become poor and don't bitch about what you deserve because you got exactly what you deserve. How do I know hard work wins? I did it. I was cut off from my family when I was very young. I have lived in my car, a barn, and a friends garage. I went hungry, I struggled, and sacrificed. It made me the man I am today. It was a f$&king adventure. I will not shelter my children from the most important lesson I can teach. I love them too much.
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I loved this. A must read. Warning strong language.
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http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/.
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Elder and i discussed beards, and got into rules and regulations
by Jon Preston induring a study the elder brought out that eating blood and omens are from the devil, and brought me to leviticus 19:26 (i think).. in verse 27 i says this:.
you must not shave the hair on the side of your head or disfigure the edges of your beard.. i said: "so why are we not allowed to have beards?".
elder: "thats a good question, cleric.
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My thoughts on beards.
1. My wife finds it attractive. That's all the reason I need. I do not like women with hairy legs or hairy arm pits. My wife grooms herself for my taste why shouldn't I so how reciprocity.
2. My children love my beard. Since they were little they would rub it and run their fingers through it for comfort.
3. I love my beard. It throws people off when they see a big dude in a nice suit with a nerdy bow tie. People never forget me.
As far as in beards in the business world argument, WTBS always uses here are some examples.
Rick Rubin (Columbia Records CEO)
Larry Elison (Oracle)
James Simon (hedge fund manager)
Gary Parr (hedge fund manager)
Carlos Slim (richest man in the world)
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Yearbook Chart Re-posted - Math explained. Top 7 countries account for 50% growth
by Westenddave insorted from high to low.
net increase in publishers2013 ave. pubs2012 ave. pubsincrease/ decrease in publishersincrease in pubs cumulative.
% increase cumulative columnabcde =a-b mexico (g-31)777,429749,58527,84427,84417.47%legend united states of america (e-32)1,167,7231,156,15011,57339,41724.73%red: latin/spanish landscongo, dem.
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Another interesting fact. If every Indian publisher tried to reach every Indian it would take 300 million hours at 15 minutes per Indian person. So with a total of 36,000 publishers volunteering an average of 10 hours per month it would take 70 years to reach everyone once. Truly Gods Organization.
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Yearbook Chart Re-posted - Math explained. Top 7 countries account for 50% growth
by Westenddave insorted from high to low.
net increase in publishers2013 ave. pubs2012 ave. pubsincrease/ decrease in publishersincrease in pubs cumulative.
% increase cumulative columnabcde =a-b mexico (g-31)777,429749,58527,84427,84417.47%legend united states of america (e-32)1,167,7231,156,15011,57339,41724.73%red: latin/spanish landscongo, dem.
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So did anyone else notice the largest country on earth by population was listed with "30 other lands". lets see if I understand this. JWs are God's wheels under his throne yet their representation is so small in the worlds largest country they have to hide it in with 29 other lands. This would mean God would destroy 1/6th of the world just because these poor people have never heard of the guy. The boys in Broklyn must be really ashamed by the China part of their story.
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So Who Would Win In A Fight, and Why?
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: apologies if this has been done before.. (if the link ever breaks, i'll try to post a new one in a future post, but it's a pic of the current governing body.
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Defianttruth
This is childish, but I'll play. Me.. I'm pretty sure I could take all 8 at the same time. How much fun would that be? I think this will be my new motivation at the gym. I'll be training for my "octagon with the octpapopes." I'll do it pay preview. All the money can go to Candice if I when and they can keep it if they do. No, better yet if they win the world will know God is on their side and if they lose they have to sell out and give everything to the people they have lied to through the years.
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Any Amateur Astronomers Out There?
by cofty ini have recently revived my interest in the night sky.
there are a lot of great sights you can identify with just a pair of binoculars.
i am currently relearning how to navigate my way round all the constellations and find some of the best objects.. i live out in the country so we get almost total darkness right outside my front door.
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Defianttruth
When I was an undergrad, My department head was the teacher for an astronomy 101 class it was only one hour a week on monday nights. Our University had an observatory out in the woods on the outskirts of town on some of the Dept of Agriculture's land. I thought, this guy has two Doctorates form Duke. If he is teaching a 101 Class it means it must be his "baby". I took the class just to kiss up to him. On the first night in the observatory, I learned a valuable lesson. He starts off his class with,"how many of you are Physics and Engineering Majors". He told us to sit on the other side of the room and he would be with us in a minute. He took the rest of the class out to look through the telescope at M51. Yes, it has been almost 20 years, but I still remember what the class got to look at. The rest of us got to work out the calculations for the geometrical offsets across the spiral arms in M51. I think I got to look through the telescope once in a whole semester.
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a few thoughts
by Defianttruth inthe true power of lies.
masturbation.
i remember my father being suspect of my long showers as a 13 year old.
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The true power of lies.
Masturbation
I remember my father being suspect of my long showers as a 13 year old. What else would I be doing besides giving my new favorite toy a complete scrubbing? Don’t get me wrong he was right about my bathing activities, but damn was he a jerk about it. He sat me in his room and told me that people who masturbate develop skin diseases and their penises will fall off. To be honest with you, this scared me to death and his tactic worked for about 3 days until the urge could not be controlled. Guess what? A few months later I did develop a rash “down there”. In retrospect, it was probably a poison ivy infection from building a fort in the woods. So here I am in the most pain imaginable physically and emotionally, (I was thinking my penis was rotting off) and I didn’t say a word to anyone. I could have gotten help but I decided I would hid the this condition because I didn’t want anyone to know. I even thought about suicide. I didn’t want to live without a penis. I felt shame. Well, a week or two goes by and everything returns to normal. What a relief. I could breath again. I later learned that almost everybody does it and it is okay. In fact, there are quite a few medical benefits to masturbation. What did I learn from my fathers Golden Nugget of advice? He couldn’t be trusted. I now have children of that age there is no way I would ever make them feel bad over any of this kind of stuff. I think it is child abuse.
Marijuana
I was told marijuana was the most dangerous substance on the Planet. I was told it would ruin your life. I was in my early 20s and was hanging out with some friends who I was in graduate school with when one looked at me and said, “Hey man, I’m pretty sure you don’t smoke, but we are going out to the balcony and smoke a joint. I don’t want to leave you in here all by yourself and make you feel uncomfortable. You are welcome to join us.” Cult mentality kicked in. I almost ran through the door. The Young People Ask was right. All of the college people are drug addicts. I calmed my self and realized he was just trying to be nice so it wouldn’t be a shock. I did not smoke that day with him. He and the rest of my friends did not try to pressure me at all. I did talk to him about it a few days later and I discussed all of my fathers, WTBS, and Just Say No lies. He just laughed. Now, I did do some pot on and off in my life. I never made it my daily routine. Guess what? A little more trust erodes.
The Truth
I do not have the time or the space to go into this, but I think the more they lie the more people will start to wake up. Think about it.
It worked for you.