Posts by excitesinceredetermination

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New Girl

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Cantleave - Thank you! Feelin' the love!

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Newbie - I need advice!

by awakening in

well here it is, my first post!

it feels like a huge step like the point of no return.

i am a born in, still in wanting to get out ms. i have refused eldership, used to pioneer and have sooo many stories.

A warm welcome to you Awakening! I don't have many suggestions yet, as I am new here as well and looking to get my family out. I am trying to think of it as jgnat said, an undercover agent. I still study everything for the meetings in order to find the newest inconsistencies so I can ask my family what they 'thought'. I am hoping this will keep a constant open door to discussing things readily so it doesn't seem so odd when I bring up the 'deeper' things.

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Happy@last - Honestly, if it were just birthdays alone, I think I would have a hard time staying in. It is one of the most obvious ways to me that it's about control. We celebrate our anniversary, have a party with cake and all. Why shouldn't I be more happy about my child's anniversary of life? I think that is great way what you did to make it their own decision, and they're okay with it.

Ooh, I think I have made a mistake in that area. I can see it now that you say it. I talk to them together about it. I should have realized that honestly. Love hearing another mama's opinion who's already been though it. Should save some frustration on the kids part!

Splash - lol! & Thank you it looks like I may officially "mentally diseased" how in the world did they get away with calling people that?

xtreemlyconfused17 - Thanks! I saw the March KM here before I got mine at the hall. Next meeting I asked for it and they said we don't have it yet! There is an new angle on 'running along side the fast paced chariot of the organization'. Someone has a faster chariot then they do lol!

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

RosePetal - thanks & that's really pretty!

Aussie - Is there quite a bit more than usual?

Alec - I appreciate the site info, I am not sure if I have seen jwsurvey yet. I have been all over, but this site is where I have found to have the most current topics and able to discuss and fine tune what exactly is not understandable.

And to Tater-T, Honesty, sizmic, BlindersOff1, LoisLanelookingforSuperman, rip van winkle, Comatose, Besty, punkofnice, irondork, gorgia Thank you for taking the time as well to introduce yourselves. I am looking forward to getting to know everyone. I have done research, but am finding more and more that I am just hitting the tip of the iceberg! There are so many inconsistencies all over most of the doctrines I hadn't even realized.

Lurker001 - A test of what?

TheListener - Good point on what little get-togethers there are. We had one last summer. As I keep reading your comment, I couldn't have said it better myself. Was it you think as soon as the "generations" understanding changed in "new light" that it is just the attitude of the generation we are living in and we now agree (after several failed predictions) that we are to never know 'the day or the hour'. Even though the scripture never changed trhis whole time. I think that's exactly it, what you mentioned there.

00DAD - Agreed!

Newly Enlightened - Thank you for the encouragement, I am beginning to feel like organized religions cannot hold up. Why not come to places like this where you can actually see what people from all over the world are thinking, instead of being told what to think, so we are all "unified."?

Ding - I think I see what you mean. I am not being notified that people commented or that I have a pm. I am so used to Fb where you get a notification when you have commented elsewhere, even besides your own thread. So I can't imagine that one wold come back to where they posted prior if there were no notifications to alert them.

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Thank you again for being so open armed, feels great!

Happy@last - How did you introduce your children to everything and how did you temper their unsure reactions (if there were any?)

Thanks Borges!

AllElseFails - It looks like you have faded the right way, I hear that it is hard though. What are your thoughts as to what I should expect if I start missing meetings, or low field service...do I do it slowly, or all at one time? It really sounds like they corner one who have any difference with them at all! Even if your just searching things out and asking questions to your jw friends, in "new light' a few months ago, this is now viewed as apostate too. Any questioning period! Why tighten the reigns so hard? The Boreans searched as to see whether these things were so...right? I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on the matter about religion, it can be hard figuring 'where else I would go to' which I still don't have a replacement per say, I just know I don't want to be there. I always feel bad after I leave, and more confused with so much new recent "light". When it really appears that they just change when they see enough complaints on a matter. That's just my opinion though.

OneDayillBeFree - You're too sweet, thank you! We'll have to conspire together on what is working for us to leave...any plans yet? Do we have ones who are current bethelites and elders? Even if they were in the past, that says a LOT! I pioneered for several years, it seems the "higher up" you go, the more corruption you see? It is a shame it is with this organization too, I had hoped so hard all of my life that this was it. Thank you for the reccommendations, they are very much appreciated! Eagar to more digging!

Any etiquette guidelines to be familiar with? Also, would someone mind helping me know how to link the persons name I see sometimes in blue when they are being responded to, and does this alert them or no? Sorry, there are so many questions!

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Thanks guys for the warm welcome! Thank you too ABibleStudent for the help on the messages, and I'm watching the video as we speak. Looking forward to hearing the rest!

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Sorry OneStepOut93, I'm figuring the messages thing, I'll send you that info lol!

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Thanks! OneStepOut93 I came in as a small kid, celebrated birthdays and holidays...I miss that. I felt more warm and cozy during holiday parties than get-togethers now. I'm not trying to be mean, but am I the only one who feels like there is no real closeness at the hall/get-togethers? I'll give pm'ing a try, thank you for the pointer. :)

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What is the most valuable thing your mother taught you?

by usualusername in

jw
friends

what is the most valuable thing your mother taught you?.

as an aside was she a witness or not at the time?.

uun .

excitesinceredetermination

My mother is a jw and if I ever came to her in tears about something she would say with a soft smile: "A person only cries when they don't know what to do. Let's get to figuring out what the next step is, so we can get through this okay?"

I felt it was time to start my first response because I saw what Newly Enlightened posted about their little brother committing suicide and wanted to be sure and say something. Just reading that squeezes your heart! I always wondered how their shunning affected people in actual reality, far past the cold printed page. That is beyond horrible!! I am so sorry that you had to go through that.

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Hello to everyone :) I wanted to introduce myself as a newbie. I was raised in and I am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but I am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time. Internally I know this is not the right religion without a doubt. I have done the research and seen the hurtful policies used that don't have any scriptural merit. Externally though I am still quite reserved because I know I will lose my family otherwise by saying too much.

I think it's amazing that there is a gathering spot like this site where you can say what you think and clear your head, because you can't tell anyone else who is a witness. I would be glad to take any suggestions on using this site, or otherwise!