Wow, I really like this thread, thanks Terry.
I was a born in who really believed it was the truth, and I liked to read, study, and research to 'keep testing whether I was in the faith' and to 'make the truth my own'. And exactly what you described happened to me, I stood at a crossroads and could not comply anymore.
What I find very true in your post is that I have a very good friend who up to a point agrees with me a lot of things are wrong in the WT but he simply doesn't show me any concrete signs that he cares. He just goes through the motions, doesn't want to lose his friends now nor his ticket to paradise. He barely goes out in service or anything, but is semi-regular at the meetings.
He thinks I'm entitled to do what I want but not to upset the little consciences of others by speaking out against the WT, he expressed this view when I told him I was thinking of starting a blog to put my views in writing and available to anyone.
So he seems to fit your description of those who don't care.
But I'm sure there some in there who do and who need us. And that is why we do not keep silent.
That is why we do not give up on them.
Alec