Posts by whichway2go

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For the Faders...

by Kool Jo in

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this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.

i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.

people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .

whichway2go

A job change is possible, but I hate to think they can force me to do that. I have moved up in the company am doing quite well for having no college ( surprise surprise).

Kool Jo - what do you mean the co and do asked for you? They wanted to meet? Did you still attend at the time?

My thought it to change congs, attend for few months and taper down. Then maybe change again, and continue the low attendance till it is nothing.I don't know how much they look at card details. I previous co once said in a meeting that several congs in the area had several families move in and immediately go inactive, and commented in how odd it was. I remember thinking, yup odd. Haha.

Cadskin- interesting thought. Is till don't know what will happen after. I'm more worried since I'm a longtime ms...

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Were/Are you and Elder, MS, CO, Bethelite, etc.? (Please check in here)

by El_Guapo in

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i'm sure alot of you have noticed, the influx of new jwn members with "postitions within the cong" this is amazing, i myself am still an m.s.

working to get removed.

lol my wife (who has been really supportive throughout my fade) asked my why i am doing i decided to fade?.

whichway2go

10 year ms here. Kept hours low enough to avoid elder the last few years, dispire encouragement from the boe. Generation change pushed me over the edge a coiple of years ago, but took me years to get courage to research online, since I'm almost a bornin, and had little outside exposure.

Last 6 months have been crazy. Misses is along for the ride as well, which is amazing since i see so many are not so lucky. Trying to figure out the way out. Not so easy when you have been so long and have family in still. I'm not bitter, love the local elders, all great men that do anything for you. They are just blinded and controlled, most have given up so much.

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As a JW, how did you feel about shunning?

by jwfacts in

i am interested in the answers for a new poll.

also, feel free to suggest other options, wording etc.agreed in full with the watchtower guidelinesagreed with shunning in general, but not for familywas stumbled by this practice but shunned as instructeddid not agree with the practice and secretly associated with disfellowshipped people .

for me personally, i did not agree with the practice and secretly associated with disfellowshipped people, even whilst at bethel.

whichway2go

I'm a vote for:

Was stumbled by this practice but shunned as instructed

I had some family that was dfd, and we limited public association, butI had no problem, eating, visiting, them etc. I even publicly metnioned it a few times, and got a couple warnings, but no action. I am not actively trying to connect with friends who have been dfed and did not return over the years.

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First post / 1914 info

by whichway2go in

my first post here after about 6 months of lurking.

i will comment more and give some more info later, but i am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

i had a question that i'm hoping someone can help with.

whichway2go

thanks again all. And yes, it does feel kind of great to say what I think. I actually did that with my exjw friends recently, and as the first time I spoke allowed about other than to the misses. Was scary and happyfying at the same time....

What a crazy mess jws cause in peoples heads...

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For the Faders...

by Kool Jo in

jw
friends

this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.

i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.

people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .

whichway2go

Ahh, that seems like a nice way to go. I remember wanting a job like that in the past, for the money, and fun. I looked at a few, and had good chances, but turned away from them realizing it would be bad spiritually. sigh...

I think I need to leaev my home cong, but I'm not sure how much suspision that would cause if I just changed congs without moving.... Anyone do that? Just move to another close one? I have at least 8 that are close. I think if I change, and then slowly stop going maybe that would work? Maybe change again? Or would the CO notice the moves, and hour reduction? Am I being paranoid?

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For the Faders...

by Kool Jo in

jw
friends

this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.

i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.

people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .

whichway2go

Wow. My goal. Have you moved form you original area? Do you attend at all anymore?

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First post / 1914 info

by whichway2go in

my first post here after about 6 months of lurking.

i will comment more and give some more info later, but i am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

i had a question that i'm hoping someone can help with.

whichway2go

Thanks all. I appreciate the thoughts. I will keep looking. I may need to find a original book in the cong library maybe. I just want to see it for personal history reasons. I remember feeling sick over it. Looking on the Internet for a few minutes and seeing apostates, then just praying to god for forgiveness and forgetting about it. It seems so crazy now, I just wanted to see it again.

I am not a born in, but may as well be. I was about 3 when my mum converted, and dad half heartedly followed years later, but still doesn't really seem to care for it.

Im also somewhat embarrassed to admit that I'm a MS. I feel like a hypocrit posting here, but am trying to get out without losing contact with mum. About 4 years ago I was told that if I could get my hours up I would be appointed elder, and I knew that it wasn't for me, so made sure that did not happen. I feel bad I disappointed some, but I need to live life for me and the misses, not my mum or the elders, and that seems to be what we have been doing for years. My hours have slowly dropped more, and I thought I would be deleted, but hasn't happened yet. I'm considering changing congs to make it happen, I see no way I could be appointed in a new cong, especially if it is a decent sized one.

I have seen many posts from other ms lately, which shocks me. But it gave me the courage to post. I decided I needed to pay back and tell a it more about me to help others on the fence about talking.

Im not sure which way to go from here, I'm on the fence about the future, but I know I want away from the jws. Take a break, continue to learn, and live and see where life goes. At least that is the plan for now. I just need to figure out what the steps to get there are in my personal situation, and to cause the least ripples we can......

Ww2go

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First post / 1914 info

by whichway2go in

my first post here after about 6 months of lurking.

i will comment more and give some more info later, but i am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

i had a question that i'm hoping someone can help with.

whichway2go

Haha. Thanks all. I have read the books you mention, and agree them and don't follow the 607 date, if it even matters.

I have interest in it as I mentioned it really bugged me, but I turned it off and marched on. The last 607 articles woke it up again, and caused me to go on a research rampage. I'd like to see the old ones again for that reason. Maybe someone else can find it... I don't know why I can't.

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First post / 1914 info

by whichway2go in

my first post here after about 6 months of lurking.

i will comment more and give some more info later, but i am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

i had a question that i'm hoping someone can help with.

whichway2go

Sorry for typos, I pad is difficult with this editor.

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First post / 1914 info

by whichway2go in

my first post here after about 6 months of lurking.

i will comment more and give some more info later, but i am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

i had a question that i'm hoping someone can help with.

whichway2go

Hi all. My first post here after about 6 months of lurking. I will comment more and give some more info later, but I am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

I had a question that I'm hoping someone can help with. Does anyone re call a book that was covered I'm the book study that touched on 607 and basically said jw's were one of the only that followed the 607 date? I thought it was 6 to 8 years ago, and I thought it was the Daniel book but am not finding it unless it was removed the cd? I don't have the actual book anymore.

My interest in finding it as it was the first time I got worried about my beliefs. I want to read it again to see what it said, and why it bothered me so. I wish I didn't take this long to wake.

Thanks for any help, and look forward to some future participation.