So i Have the exact info from what happened and exactly what the elders said:
a: She was baptized at 16. Went to college and while thereshe met a guy. She stopped going to the meeting. She had multiple episodes with the guy but all kissing and heavy petting(petting... such an old word). Then one day it went further. He rubbed her bare breasts and she put her hands in his pants. She stroked his penis and he almost had a happy ending. She said all the noise he made etc made her think she should stop. She did. Ran home crying.
b. Next day she ended it. She then that day decided to return to hall. Prayed to Jehovah and vowed to never do it again. Started attending meetings again stayed on the positive track.
c. A few years later she meets my friend at the hall. They get along well and start dating. They get engaged and married.
d. After a couple years she decides to pioneer. She submits app and gets accepted. She listens to a talk about secret sins and remembers what she did and decides to tell her husband because she WONDERS IF SHE SHOULD GO TO THE BROTHERS.
e. He is not upset and says it happened before me and so long ago, they will understand(ROFLROFLROFL). They don't. They tell her that she concealed it and never told her potential mate that she had committed a sin and kept it secret. So in essence he decided to marry someone who had committed fornication and never repented officially. This nullifies the marriage bond.
f. He is mad because as she recitied to him what happened he asked her if she enjoyed it and she said she did. (I would think that any normal person would)
So in essence his pride was hurt so he took the elders out on this. I still have never heard of this happening before and the reasoning is ass backwards.