Posts by cultBgone

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Will being able to post on Facebook anonymously help us apostates??

by Crazyguy in

i guess posting anonymously on facebook is now a reality, can it help the exjw community?.

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cultBgone

Hah! I was so excited when I finally set up my fictitous FB account. Such freedom!

That lasted about a week. I never login there now, probably should delete it. But it was a wonderful release at the time, apparently just what I needed to move on.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

cultBgone

Kairos, YOU are not mentally diseased! The horrible men who manipulate others in the bOrg are those mentally diseased ones.

Your comments remind me of when I was feeling so angry/stupid/ashamed/horrible that I had spent so much of my life in this ridiculous organization without realizing how crazy it was.

Hang in there and keep moving forward. The crappy feelings will go away and you'll feel better about yourself. Hey! You have real friends here on this board, and depending on where you live, you may actually get to meet them! Watch for an apostafest near you.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

cultBgone

I began pulling away when I became physically ill and mentally exhausted from the phony sideshow. My cognitive dissonance was in overdrive. I was a reg pio for several years and not leading a double life but I felt a growing unease and distaste for the meetings and the phony people. But like a good little dub, I convinced myself that I just needed to study more and pray more and that's why I didn't feel like I fit in, or like things weren't working out well.

So I did the full-blown look-up-all-the-scriptures-underline-notes-in-the-margin study and picked out three answers, which was increasingly difficult in the foreigh language congregation we attended. Determined to answer and be a part of the happiest-people-on-earth group, I got dressed and went to the meeting for the first time in several weeks. The strangest thing happened. Instead of feeling all happy and warm at the hall, I felt like every fiber of my being was telling me to get away. So I got up and left - don't remember if I even stayed for the talk - but that was the last meeting I attended. I went to the next memorial in another town with family just to make them happy but felt like I couldn't get out the door fast enough.

The Candace Conti revelation was also an important trigger for me, and I'd already been physically out for a year. My family experienced an incident of molestation decades ago, but reading about Candace and her lawsuit brought it all flooding back and I realized that ours was not an isolated case. My emotional responses were the fuel that led me to start digging and gave me the courage to come here to JWN, although I couldn't handle the intensity at first and it took another year before I felt comfortable commenting.

My cult indoctrination was very deep. I spent more than a full year getting rid of the intense anger, grief, even rage at times toward this lying, scheming organization that defrauded me and my family and kept us away from really living for decades. I did a lot of healing, and coming back to JWN coupled with lots of non-religious spiritual reading helped push me to a place of peace.

Ignoring the mental and emotional exhaustion brought on by living the bOrg life caused me severe physical illness that forced me to bed, so I was removed from the cult influence and my brain began healing. Although it was a continuous journey cycling through the emotions, I believe physical distance was a huge factor is speeding up my awakening.

I would have to say that the Mental process triggered the Emotional responses that led to getting out Physically, but the Emotional issues had to be worked through. Much like when you first studied and you learned layers upon layers of cult theology, you have to peel back those layers to get them all out of your mind. So I don't think it's like tearing off a costume and throwing it away for good, at least not when you've heavily invested in it emotionally.

I feel deeply for all those who know TTATT but cannot leave for family reasons. Just recognizing that things didn't quite add up made it tortuous for me, so kudos to all of you who are enduring.

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Service meeting video....what a non-event

by sir82 in

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friends

at our service meeting we saw the video of a jw explaining his beliefs about 1914.. it was.....well, "underwhelming" does not do it justice.

what is below "underwhelming"?

"boringly tepid"?.

cultBgone

Wow....I miss going to the meetings SO MUCH...no, that's a lie. I could barely stomach the nonsense spewing forth when I left, so I cannot imagine how anyone could sit through this and not smack themselves and say, "Idiot! This is utter nonsense! Get out and do something with your beautiful life!"

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HELP! Elder bombarded me with scripture...& I don't know what to do.

by Smoky in

i have been lurking on this site for many years.

i rarely post anything, because my english isnt the best and not sure if anyone understands.

i just recently had a run in with an elder, have not seen him in a few years.

cultBgone

Smoky...you have already won. You are a free man! So just laugh off their silliness and say See Ya Later..or Not!

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Why doesn't god like thongs, tightie whities, boxers or just plain going "commando"?

by AndDontCallMeShirley in

please don't mock the mormon's magical underwear.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pslrvpeodog&feature=player_embedded.

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cultBgone

So a soldier in combat can send his official issue GI tee shirts in to be monogrammed with the MU symbols!

That must be why the dubs had to add their own magik cymbal, the purple jw.org logo. Wonder if they'll be adding it to undies...

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I Was Asked To Perform A Marriage Ceremony But Don't Know I'm Qualified

by minimus in

jw
friends

my girlfriend's daughter and her fiancee asked me to marry them last night.

they live in connecticut and will be married in new york.

i felt honored that i was asked but i don't think i can do it because i am not a clergyman or minister and my u derstanding is that only clergy or judges and lawyers and justice of the peace can perform a wedding ceremony and marry a couple.. does anyone have any information on this subject?

cultBgone

Here in Florida you can be officially married by any active Notary Public.

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a young 14 year old girl was disfellowshipped in my former congregation last week

by alexandre in

a baptized girl from my former cong.

was expelled out because she participated in more than one porn videos with classmates in the school and theses videos became public.

she is 14 years old and grew up as witnesses.but anybody knows she had many boyfriends and she-, but that thing was unbelievable!

cultBgone

I think the most important question is...who was watching it that they knew it was true, and did the eldubs watch it to just to be sure? If they did, shame on them and df them for watching it.

This whole thing is totally disturbing. FlyingHighNow is so right, the adults of the marketing world are leading kids to make poor life choices thinking they will gain approval, when in fact they are left with guilt and bad memories.

This girl and her friends need adults in their lives who care enough to raise and counsel them well.

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A question for my friends in the USA about cowboys.

by punkofnice in

as a kid growing up in the uk we used to play 'cowboys and indians' and watch high chaparal and bonanza along with other cowboy films.

later, in the 70's kung fu would be shown with caine going through the 'old west'.

we even had a chocolate bar that was marketed with a 'cowboy' theme...milky bar.. as far as i know the 'wild west' as shown on tvdidn't actually exist.. are there people that believe it did?.

cultBgone

Terry and Humbled, thank you both for the lovely posts. Seems a few more books could be written, yes?

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A picture paints a thousand words, but ...

by Simon in

while i appreciate people like to post funny pictures from time to time i think it's sometimes gotten a little out of hand and has had a detrimental effect on some of the topics.

while many of the pictures are humerous this isn't intended to be a meme site and there's a tendency for pictures to keep pushing the line and becoming more crude, gross or shocking.. i'd like to request people think twice before posting things like this.

i'm not saying they are outright banned but please think twice before posting them - do they really futher the discussion any or do they detract from the conversation?.

cultBgone

Simon has the right to moderate this site as he sees fit. I personally think he does a great job of letting everyone have their say and only rarely feels the need to step in. At times it does seem to be a gross-out contest of who can out-do the last poster and the threads do run off-course.

Thanks, Simon, for all you do. I know many of us appreciate the tremendous support system this site provides.