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Your partner is disfellowshipped. That is why there will never be eye contact, hellos, or thank-you’s from a JW. The JW leadership’s interpretation of the Bible forbids their members from acknowledging him. In reality it is the pressure used to try to force a return to the cult. Because his father is a church elder, he and his wife get a free-pass on the ‘no speaking to rule’ and are entitled to tell your partner what he should do.

You sound like you’re doing well. Your partner sounds like a great person. You say his parents now avoid you like the plague. Good. Stop reaching out. You don’t need them to be a happy family and from what you say, you folks will live a better life having minimal contact. Establish some limits on what you allow them to do. Building the playhouse against your wishes was way out of bounds. If it really bothers you and they continue to intrude on your family values, you might want to think about dismantling it. Returning it will definitely send a message. Encourage the girls to continue enjoying the simple things in life. Love your mom. She sounds like a good person who has turned her life around. She unfortunately has done it with the help of a cult, but so what, she’s happy and feels fulfilled. She seems to be in a good place and may need the JW lifestyle to keep her there. Tell her you’re happy for her but that it’s just not for you. She will continue hoping and trying to convert you. Don’t get her hopes up unless you really want to join the cult. And be aware you can get sucked in. That’s exactly what your partner knows and is referring to when he talks about “tricks”.

As to the kids RESP, don’t expect help from your in-laws. JW’s leaders discourage higher learning and believe their kids need to become full-time JW door-knockers.

Without getting into a big discussion of your in-laws you need to be aware that their ultimate agenda is for you to conform to their concept of God pleasing….stop pot, get married, become a Bible-verse-quoting-JW and ultimately help to get their son undisfellowshipped and back in line.

Concentrate on those who love you and live your life to be happy. If the in-laws are avoiding you, even bashing you, don’t lose sleep over it. You’re not required to reach out to them. Establish boundaries and don’t be shy to let others politely know when they are attempting to cross them. Thank God that your partner is aware of their ‘tricks’. You can have a great life ahead of you without the JW religion.

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THE LINGERING SHADOW OF '75

by Terry in

none of you are old enough to have been there, i suspect.

i had been in prison two years as a jw conscientious objector when the exciting news about 1975 spread like wildfire.i was paroled from prison in 1969 and immediately began pioneering.

the pressures began mounting throughout the organization.

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Dad was the congregation servant. Although we had no money (he painted our family car with a paint brush) he went out and purchased “Famine 1975” quoted in the Truth book and waved it from the podium every chance he got. Then he moved the family where the Society told him the need was great. In 1976 these events were quickly wiped from his hard-drive and when they were referred to, he would always say, “Never happened.”

The same thing will happen with the generation. Once David Splane lets go of his bone, everyone will say “Never happened.” Most members I talk to have already written it off.

But they’re staying.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0FI0BJeuKQ