I am married to a doubting-inactive witness. We met on the internet and for a long time he wouldnt tell me his religion either. Everytime I asked he would change the subject.
We co-exist very very well. I dont believe in Religion at all so therefore he didnt have to worry about having to convert to my religion and since I dont believe in religion he knew I didnt have to worry about coverting to his..... it is a hard long story but here it goes.............
in May of 99 I met Shawn in the X-Files chat room and from that night we were always in contact with each other. ;)
We started calling and writing and emailing....and then one day his car broke down and he had to stay with his parents. His dad asked him why since his car was fixed was he still staying with them. Shawn's phone had been turned off because of the $1800 we had run up calling. He told his dad that he was interested in me .....a girl that was not JW....scary for him to admit. In August he asked me to marry him and I said yes. I told my parents that I was moving to st louis (they were NOT happy atALL). He told his parents he was coming to get me and that we were going to be married...... his mom cried.... his sister told him do whatever you want to do..... his brotherinlaw got pissed at him and his father welllllllll told him that he needed to think about it a little longer. But Shawn and I had made up our minds. They didnt not like the fact that shawn was in love with a worldly girl. My parents didnt like the fact that I was moving so far away with a person I had never met face to face until the night he arrived in my small hometown in oklahoma.
We got back to st louis and all was fine. 2 days later his parents came by and the first words out of motherinlaw's mouth was ~did you get married??~ Shawn was thrown off and just said yes.
Well now they think we were married on September 1 instead of our actual wedding date of October22.
Our life has been unusually hard considering the fact that I want children and they dont want grandchildren.
There are things that my hubby was taught that I just cannot agree with and he knows this. I respect him and he respects me.
ok after i got to st louis my sisterinlaw caught shawn smoking, he had to go to the elders as she turned him in. the elders then had tried to blame me for his smoking. He tried to explain to them that he had been smoking since highschool and full 4 years before we met or knew each other. But they still tried to pin it on me. They didnt disfellowship him though he said he had the life and death fear when they sent him out of the room for their decision. They had removed him from any duties for marrying me so there wasnt much else they could do besides disfellowshipping. They took away his right to answer questions in the sunday morning session and he could no longer go on "field service" (door to door) untill he was repentant. He still to this date has not gone back to the kingdom hall.
He is reading Crisis of Consceince by Ray Franz and he identifies with it alot.
When his mom and dad came down to visit us after we moved back to where I grew up, they went to the kingdom hall here and his mom told one of the ladies there that shawn had decided not to be a witness anymore and had married me.
I dont persuade him to stay out and I dont persuade him to go back. I have no matter in that decision as it is a personal one with God.
I do however trust that God would have never set us on the path to each other if he truly didnt want us to be together.
Good Luck and Have Faith......
