i tend to find myself attracted to the extremes.
either woman who are very nice and sweet or woman who are wild and crazy.
however, i don't like woman who are rude and have a lot of attitude.. many guys like blonds, but i tend to like dark haired woman better.
Hi KissAFish, so you can relate, huh?
I used to think being short was the way to go because then you could date either tall OR short guys, but when you are tall the shorter guys are usually intimidated by your height....Oh well, now I kind of like being tall and longlegged.
Windrider, who loves to wear high heels
well, i had a run in with my sister in law this weekend.
nothing direct between me and her since she shuns me.
but my brother dave told me something that just pissed me off to no end.
Hi Harmony, I wish I could give you a big hug right now....you need it! Your post was very moving and I could really relate to the dilemma you are going thru and have been going thru for at least the last nine years. It is awful to have to walk around on egg shells for fear of losing the basic of human bonds: that of a child and their parents love!
I think it is good you let it out; otherwise it is like a slowcooker with the steam valve closed....if you dont let some of that steam out the whole lid is going to blow and not at a time of your choosing. Besides, I can tell it has just been eating away at you and hurting you immensely. From the way your parents and brothers to some extent, have chosen to keep speaking to you and doing things with you, they hopefully will be open to your emails and will take it to heart.....maybe even make some changes however small to reassure you that your worst fear will not happen. I sure hope so. And as Bea said, We love you!!
I know you dont know me very well, but if you ever need to talk or just vent, please email me if you want: [email protected]
I also have a s-i-l from Hell .....dont get me started.
Sincerely, Windrider
Oh Puffs! Im so sorry to hear about your Dad! That is so very hard to accept and deal with; and it takes time. I wish I had caught your original post; sorry. At times like that it really helps to know everyone cares and are here for you....and will continue to be.
Sincerely, Windrider
man is a soul,.
christ was created, .
holy spirit a real person, or god's active force?.
Gopher, I agree with your live and let live philosophy. And also sharing what you know with our children and letting them pick and choose what makes sense for them. One thing I do know is that I will not force my viewpoints on my boys, when it comes to religion or the lack of it in their lives.
I have decided to just be honest with them; tell them that Mommy was in a religion for so long that taught harmful and erroneous beliefs, that I am not so sure myself, nor do I have all the answers. And I tell them what things I am learning/have learned since leaving the JW's and what things make sense to me and why. But I always stress to them, esp. my 14 yr.old that I know he has a brain and a good head on his shoulders and so if something I beleive doesnt make sense to him then that's ok. I will always support him finding his own answers and appreciate talking with him about his outlooks on life, God, religion, etc.
Basically, I try to act as a guide and sounding board for him as he learns from his experiences in school, with his friends and the world around him. He seems to appreciate my honesty. I do however, point out the harsh realities of my former religion and the dangers should he ever think of returning to the Witnesses. His father is still one (altho' in name only) and all of his relatives here are elders, pioneers, etc. Fortunately, he has voiced many times that "ny religion that would require a parent to kill their child by denying them a blood transfusion, I have absolutely no use for and they can go...@@%$#, (well you know )
Sincerely, Windrider
i tend to find myself attracted to the extremes.
either woman who are very nice and sweet or woman who are wild and crazy.
however, i don't like woman who are rude and have a lot of attitude.. many guys like blonds, but i tend to like dark haired woman better.
As far as what physically attracts me.....well, I love the tall dark and handsome ones! I have never been big on blonds altho' I almost married one once. And since I am 5'9" it really appeals to me to be with a man who is taller than me, I guess it makes me feel small and feminine. I am not that fussy about weight as long as they generally take care of themselves. And I have a wide margin in determining what is handsome....I go more for the rugged, slightly imperfect, (not Brad Pitt, or classically beautiful guys)gorgeous guys.
I love a great smile and eyes....oh yes, the eyes are a real focal point for me! Skeptic has what I call "bedroom eyes" and I just melt when he looks at me!
Qualities I fall for everytime would be things like a wonderful sense of humour; I love to laugh and have a great time when were together, even if it is just a trip to the grocery store.
I love and couldnt do without a man with a good head on his shoulders and isnt afraid to be responsible, dependable. A man with a good social conscience. And by far, THE most important thing would be for my guy to be intelligent; love to read and discuss any number of topics and be comfortable enough in who he is that we can disagree in our conclusions and argue our viewpoints without worrying that one of us is taking it personally. Someone who makes me feel like my points are valid, even when he doesnt necessarily agree with me.
I guess those are the biggies for me.
Windrider
i tend to find myself attracted to the extremes.
either woman who are very nice and sweet or woman who are wild and crazy.
however, i don't like woman who are rude and have a lot of attitude.. many guys like blonds, but i tend to like dark haired woman better.
LOL! Anton, dont you think you're being kind of picky??!
Windrider
man is a soul,.
christ was created, .
holy spirit a real person, or god's active force?.
Dutchy, Im with you on this. After spending 35yrs "growing up in the truth" and now having been out for 7, I still dont know what is real, what is "the truth" or frankly if there even is such a thing.
It makes it very difficult for me now, raising my 14 and 7yr. old to know how to answer or even direct their spiritual lives.
I think I have just pared it down to some basics:
I believe that there is hopefully a God, whether he is the Almighty from the Bible or not, I dont know.
I believe that there is much good, healing, peace and knowledge to be found in his creations around us.
I hope that there is an afterlife, altho' I personally tend to think there is no place of eternal torment called Hell, I do hope there is a Heaven. Maybe that is foolish to think I can believe in one without the other. But I cant imagine a God who is loving choosing to punish anyone with eternal torment and suffering....I mean we arent just talking a few days, years, we are talking never ending!
I do not believe in a paradise earth anymore.
And these are about all I believe with any certainty and even then I know they are subject to change as I grow and learn more info. The thought that scares me is that perhaps the Atheists are right! If I find they are, I will accept that because I would always rather know the facts, the real truth about a situation rather than just live in false albeit blissful ignorance.
Sincerely, Windrider
i've been a bit short with people today in the forums, and i shouldn't have been quite so abrupt.
i get frustrated when i see exjws make the same mistake and join up with political groupthink just as they used to join with governing body groupthink.
it's all propaganda, as i keep trying to point out, but the fact is that you can believe whatever you want without my input.. i realize i keep harping on conservative hypocrisy lately, but that's because they are in power right now.
Hi Seeker,
Sorry your having a rough time of it; hope things are less stressful for you soon.
You are a great guy, try to give yourself a break.
Sincerely, Windrider
a little off topic for the board, but i thought it was applicable to the times.. .
the death of free speech.
by doug patton.
Chappy, please understand that I know politics is an emotional, personal issue and I respect your views. So maybe you can forgive me when I say, What a bunch of hogwash! That takes the cake! Trying to cover up their true, greedy concerns with this kind of emotional ploy is adding insult to injury. Im not buying.
Sincerely, Windrider
This is too cool! My team wins either way. If it's Canada, well Great!, that's Skeptic's country and if the USA wins, Cool! my neck of the woods.
Windrider, who just loves a win/win situation
