bk62 Welcome to the board.
I am calamityjanes hubby. ( CJ ) I am always a bit resistant to post to these kind of threads, not because I don't care, but because I've seen so many current jw's post a question or a sob story... describing how bad their life is (was). And as the thread carries on, one realizes that they are indeed deceivers.....trolls as we call them, their only purpose to be able to "count time in the Field Service ".
I hope you are not one of those.
CJ dragged me over to the computer to read your post. Everything she said is soooo true.
I respond to your post only because I repsect Francois, he responded first and it is seldom I disagree with what he posts. What Frank has said is true, and if you search his posts on this board, you will see....he speaks wisdom due to his experiences.
YES. Take it slow and steady. Research all you can. DO NOT rely just on this board for your answers, but use the links to do further research. Unfortunately, you do not not have the luxury to research the WBTS own's publications, but the jehovah's-witnesses quotes web page is very informative and very easy to peruse.
I feel you love your wife very much, ( as I love mine, and I would do anthing to SAVE her ) and we hope the help you have requested on this board, and the information you will find will help both of you to contentment and peace.
Regards xjw_b12 and calamityjane
" I just want to know the truth, because I've been lied to all my life " cj