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  The big talk with parents - need help!

  by zenpunk in

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  my husband and i have decided to start a family this summer.

  as exciting as that may be there's one issue that weighs heavily on my mind - what to do about both our sets of jw parents.

  should we lay some ground rules down with them before the baby arrives (which they will probably break anyway)?

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  zenpunk

  My husband and I have decided to start a family this summer. As exciting as that may be there's one issue that weighs heavily on my mind - what to do about both our sets of JW parents. Should we lay some ground rules down with them before the baby arrives (which they will probably break anyway)? How do I ensure that one day my child doesn't come to me demanding to go to the meetings or telling me that Christmas is bad because of something grandma said. I was a JW from age 10 to age 24 and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I'm sure some of you have had to deal with this issue - what have you done to keep your children safe from Watchtower indoctrination?

  You see it's ironic - though my parents shun us, once they found out from my grandmother (who was never a JW) about our plans - they suddenly want to be back in our lives - see, they figure they can save the children!
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  A very special anniversary.

  by Princess in

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  it's a bit early but as we are leaving town i had no choice but to do this now.

  sunday is mulan and big red's fortieth wedding anniversary.

  they were kind enough to want to share the celebration with their family so we are going to hawaii with them tomorrow for two weeks!.

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  I have to say congratulations -40 years is indeed an achievement.
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  Disfellowshipped for Being Raped!

  by UnDisfellowshipped in

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  march 8th 1974 issue, pages 13-16:.

  "scream!

  scream!

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  This is disgusting. I remember years ago there was a sister (I think it was Saugrities, NY) who was D/F'd for being raped. Those who knew the sister were infuriated because she was accused of taking pleasure in the attack (yea, right). Wherever she is - I hope she has found peace in her life.
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  The truth about the first year of marriage

  by meadow77 in

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  the guests have gone home.

  you've opened all the gifts.

  what surprised you the most about your first year of marriage?.

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  The first year is the hardest, especially if you're a JW and have to keep up with field service etc., The first year was very rough since my husband is from England and got really depressed once the "vacation in the states" was over. We both left the borg between our 2nd and 3rd year of marriage. Then life got a whole lot better for us once our relatives stopped berating us and just chose to shun us instead. Then, at the 7th year it gets rough again (the seven year itch is not a joke!), but, if you survive, by year 8 everything is even better than before. We've been married 9 years now.
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  QUESTION??

  by Siddhashunyata in

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  after leaving jehovah's witnesses we experience much confusion.

  what should we believe about god, religion, death , life , war, health, sex etc.etc?

  usually we search out other ideas or beliefs and again find ourselves groping for another "world view" that will , at last give us peace.

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  I know what you mean. I think, once you learn that what you thought was the truth was not at all what it seems when you step back and gain perspective, you tend to lose faith in everything. I've been in this state of limbo for a couple of years. It's my hope that if I continue search and exposing myself to new experiences in life, I will make peace with it all...
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  Atkins - good or bad?

  by zenpunk in

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  i keep hearing good and bad about the atkins diet.

  i started it a month ago not really to lose weight, but, i had heard that atkins eliminates sluggishness during the day and insomnia at night.

  what was startling was the amount of energy i gained.

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  The more I think of it, maybe the problem isn't carbs as much as it is all this processed food. Maybe our only carbs should come from vegetables and whole grains.
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  Atkins - good or bad?

  by zenpunk in

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  i keep hearing good and bad about the atkins diet.

  i started it a month ago not really to lose weight, but, i had heard that atkins eliminates sluggishness during the day and insomnia at night.

  what was startling was the amount of energy i gained.

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  I keep hearing good and bad about the Atkins diet. I started it a month ago not really to lose weight, but, I had heard that Atkins eliminates sluggishness during the day and insomnia at night. What was startling was the amount of energy I gained. But I keep hearing stories about colon cancer and, ironically diabetes resulting from this diet. Is this true? Have any documented studies been done by non-biased parties?
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  name your addiction

  by Vivamus in

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  i'm making it official.

  i'm addicted!

  someone once said to me that admitting it is solving half of the problem, and i can live with the other half... lol.

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  It's gotta be Chocolate. I even have a friend at work making me some low/no Carb chocolate brownies. I guess he thought I needed them when he saw me eating the Chocolate powder from a "no sugar added" hot chocolate package.
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  Was Public Reproof Traumatic for You?

  by zenpunk in

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  i was reproved at the age of 17 and, believe me it was a nightmare at home.

  first, my parents felt such shame over me - i was such an evil disappointment to them.

  i would hear my mother talk on the phone to other sisters about how sad she was about the way i had turned out.

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  That's a terrible story Neon - I'm glad all is alright now! I too was depressed for years, thinking I was so unworthy.
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  Will I Have To Hold My Breath Until April?

  by Englishman in

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  now come on you good people whom love football, my team are looking good enough to take the title, eh?.

  whad'ya think, anyone want to suggest some other team?.

  englishman.

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  zenpunk

  I live in a house of Liverpool supporters. I can't mention the name of another team, especially Manchester United!