she hasn't given any literature. I was thinking of getting crisis of conscience as it seems to be raved about. i just can feel that she's being pulled in two directions and i think that if she can make a life for herself, because i think she wants to, we've talked about going to bali etc, seeing the world, that she could distance herself from the JW without ruining the relationship with her family. Whenever we talk about her religion, my heart feels like its going to explode out of my chest. I just couldn't make her choose, not just because i can'tface the thought of us not being together but because i just don't know what she'dsay.I feellike i'm being completely selfish and ignorant. it just feels like that its all or nothing and either of us cannot make the desicion. HELP!!!
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sex outside of marriage
by xploration ini'm not a jw but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship.
we are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option.
we have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse.
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sex outside of marriage
by xploration ini'm not a jw but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship.
we are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option.
we have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse.
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i don't knowif she is baptized or not. At first when she told me her career plans i thought that she just wanted to be a loving "housewife"-thats what she ideally wants to be. I just thought that she had different values and priorities in life ie. family etc. Then when i asked why her dad was so off about the idea of boyfriends she told me EVERYTHING!! how she was a JW and she skirted on some of the rules, which we'd obviuosly broken. There were alot of tears shed that day- i don't even konw why i was crying. She asked me to look into the JW, i said i would, which i guess is what i'm doing now but i haven't told her this. Ever since looking i see similarities between her life and what the JW life is about. Not going to uni, not wanting a job, being unavailable at regular times in the week. It scares me deeply because i don't think that she is 100% convinced which gives me hope. Shes mentioned about armageddon and how that i don't have to be in to marry her but that she would live knowing that i wouldn't be around etc. At this point i best mention that her parents are divorced-her mother had an affair, she has a sister who seems even less involved than her. She has also talked about bigger meeting where people talk infront of larger groups 100-200 ppl. She says that she has talked too.Do you have any idea what this is? All i no is that i don't want in with the JW, but i love so much, more than i have ever felt or even imagine feeling. I just want to know how can i make her see that this might not be for her, without ruinng our relationship or her relationship with her father. I was thinkng about talikng to her mother, but my girlfriend says her mother blames the JW for her affair so i don't want to go down that road! I just want to help my girlfriend...
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sex outside of marriage
by xploration ini'm not a jw but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship.
we are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option.
we have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse.
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yes together, but only at weekends, or end of terms. You cannot surley expect newly married couples to live apart for the first years of their relationship. Not mentioning how her father would view me.
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sex outside of marriage
by xploration ini'm not a jw but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship.
we are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option.
we have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse.
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I don't understand what you mean. I can freely say that i could easily marry my g/f, but we are both too young and we wouldn't be together enough for it to be fair or practical.
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sex outside of marriage
by xploration ini'm not a jw but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship.
we are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option.
we have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse.
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it would entail me being at a university for five years and then another three years training around the country, or even other countries so i marriage doesn't seem quite fair on either of us as we would be separated for a long period of time. the marriage side isn't a big factor as we can dothat later in life, it is just that we want to continue to develop our realtioship, and iam just concerned that she will be made an outcast byher fathers side of the family, if she reveiles our relationship to her family in the JW. Or even if she decides that she doesn't want to be a complete totalist. It just confuses and scares me.
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sex outside of marriage
by xploration ini'm not a jw but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship.
we are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option.
we have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse.
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Hello,
I'm not a JW but my girlfriend has been brought up with this faith and is unsure on the decsions she has tomake concerning out relationship. We are madly in love and i can honestly say i could spend the rest of my life with her but i will be going to med school in about 18 months so marriage is not a valid option. We have an active sexlife, but do not participate in full intercourse. I want to, and she says she does, but i am concerned on the hold that the JW has on her. She wants to be a nurse, which requires a degree but recently she says she doesn't want to go to uni and doeasn't really want a job at all and would settle for a 9-5 bank job. I am concerned also that her father, who doesn't evenknow about me would refuse to see her if she acknowledges our relationship to him. I just want to know how she would be viewed considering our relationship and what i can do to help decide what she wants to do.