It is true that the principle of shunning and Dfs, hurt a lot of former JW.s And that this behavior have led people to suicide, and have caused them mental trouble. But it is not a weapon that could kill their enemies only, it can Couse even them who chose to stay enormous pain and nervous problems.
In my case, my wife and I have created a big family. Six children and today five grandchildren. None of us is any longer a JW, except my wife!!! She is supposed to shun all her children, not letting them come to our big house, not letting them sleep over in our house (none of them has married). When some of the members of the family celebrates Christmas/birthdays and want to do it in our house, she must leave the house going to “her friends”, doing her service hours. If she is choosing to stay home on some meeting, because she have all heir 5 grandchildren at home, there is always one or two giving her a call, to hear why she didn´t attend that special meeting.
I can tell, that it is not the rest of the family that is depressed and have nervous problems with WT shunning and Dfs policy. In fact it hits the user of that policy as well. I know several families in the same situation. Some of the older members of the congs, has been forced to move to other cities so that it shouldn´t be obvious that they still like to meet their children and grandchildren.
Bugbear