Cofty,
Great question!
I, for one, would take the opportunity to try and reach my "still-in" sons, but I would tread lightly for all of the reasons you mentioned.
There is no question, my relationship(s) will never be the same with either of my children. Still, I am the one that initially taught them these beliefs and I feel an obligation to try and teach them that I was wrong and there is a better way, a much better way.
I'm sure it's different when it's your parents that shun you than siblings or even children. Still, they are family.
Nevertheless, if they want a relationship with me they will have to show that I can trust them and that I am safe.
I believe in unconditional love, but that does not mean that I will allow myself to be abused or mistreated. I maintain appropriate boundaries.
- Ultimately, the most important relationship we have in this life is the one we have with our self. - [attribution redacted]
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