Cognac: Husband is completely, beside himself LIVID. He's going to the elders on me.
Nothing screams "CULT" like one family member turning in another.
There actually is nothing the elders can "do" to you. Sure, they can "disfellowship" you, but it sounds like you already cut off all "fellowship" with them a year ago.
Since your hubby is still under their thought/mind control, they can certainly mess him up which will no doubt cause all sorts of complications in your life. But he's an adult and he has to make his own choices.
Ask him why the ultimatums? You would never do that to him? Would you ever say, "You have to leave JWs or I'll leave you!"? But many JWs have left their spouses when they left the organization.
It's so twisted.