well i got married to someone just as i was getting into the org..but got rid of him not long after that..was single the whole time i was in the org..for 13 years..then i married a brother and it was one of the biggest mistakes of my life....he was looser with a capital L.. then i have been single since january this year when i ended the relationship....had a few duds that i met in the world..but now i have met a wonderful man who is not a witness and is everything a JW brother should be...respectful loving , kind, understanding, and loves me like his own body...and yes i am sooooooo much happier now...isnt that ironic that we are so much happier when it was meant to be the other way around!!! funny that!!!
nelly1
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How many of you are remarried to a "WORLDLY" spouse and are HAPPIER now?
by Jessica Rabbit inmaybe i'm just lucky, but my new husband who has never even been to church treats me better than my first husband who was raised a jw.
my first husband was an alcoholic who had no respect for women.
i suffered with a lot of verbal and emotional abuse.if i wasn't in a romantic mood, then there was something wrong with me.
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As a loyal JW, what made you to start doubting the Watchtower ???
by run dont walk ini'm sure all of us were loyal at one time to the watchtower, believing in all of it.
(some of us probaly hated it from day one as well but, ).
what were some of the first things that happened or were said, that made you to start doubting it and beginning the loss of your loyalty to the organization ??????.
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nelly1
you know its amazing how some of us experienced the same things...ironic isnt it??
I was in the org for 13 years..a very loyal and faithful witness..who beleived she was truly serving her god....i went to all meetings..feild service...I was a single mother with 3 small children and we were going thru alot when i first got involved..the kids father was a pedophile( and no he wasnt a witness)
i got rid of him..but when i look back on those 13 yrs in the org... there was only one sister who truly cared and it was she who taught me what love was...as a child i was abandoned so i really didnt know..
she was always supportive and loving to me and she wasnt even in my cong...sad to say she is fanatical about the religion..:(
still in and i havnt talked to her since i left... i can relate to what alot have posted here..but you know you dont realise how bad it was in until you get out.....
gee so much to say wants to all come out at once...one thing i experienced is that alot that have priviledges in my cong will talk the talk but not walk the walk...busy preaching and teaching it but man soo hypocritical....cold hard men...i cannot stand any of them..I really tried to like them and be upbuilding to them..but all they did was ignore me...
i had a hell of a time to go through when i was in there with high court trials..and all that crap that went along with it..no matter how hard i tried to be the perfect witness it was never good enough..no matter wether i pioneered....worked on QB over and over whatever was required i did....
I felt worn out and tired and depressed...and when they started setting me up elders lying and me having to have a judicial well that was the begining of the end for me...and trying to control my every move ohh mani hated it...
counseled for the most ridiculous things...going out to lunch with my bible student..then my answerphone message which i got rapped on the knuckles for . so stupid as it was real funny.
but suffice to say...it is correct about no love there is none at all...and as far as christianity...there is more of that in paganism than there is in the WT...
and i relate to what was said about so called people outside the org who are said to be wicked etc...sheesh since i been out i have met more loving ppl in just under a year than in 13 in that stupid cult.....I feel so much happier now im out :):)
huggss from nelly to all
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elders wives that gush all over you after you wake up and leave
by nelly1 inhello everyone, i havnt been on for a while hope all is well on here.... wanted to relate i was working in public place recently and an elders wife saw me rushed up went on about how much she missed me etc and the door was wide open for me to come back.... she said how are you and i said im wonderfulllllllllllllllllllllllllllll in a really loud voice ...haha.
and i thought to myself my god when i was in that cong she never spoke to me more than once a month and only to say hello.....it really amazes me that soon as you leave they are all over you with all their gushing oh we miss you ( crock of shit).
which is water of a ducks back with me... never ceases to amaze me she went on and on about welcoming back with open arms etc.... what a load of bull shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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nelly1
hello everyone, i havnt been on for a while hope all is well on here...
wanted to relate i was working in public place recently and an elders wife saw me rushed up went on about how much she missed me etc and the door was wide open for me to come back...
she said how are you and i said IM WONDERFULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL in a really loud voice ...haha
and i thought to myself my god when i was in that cong she never spoke to me more than once a month and only to say hello.....it really amazes me that soon as you leave they are all over you with all their gushing oh we miss you ( crock of shit)
which is water of a ducks back with me..
never ceases to amaze me she went on and on about welcoming back with open arms etc...
what a load of bull shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! in fact its the biggest load ive ever heard..
anyway i made it plain i said i told your husband and many others : I DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!!!!" looking her right in the eye..that shut her up and she left...
ahh venting is such a healing thing....
hey how is everyone doing anyway and what major things have i missed???
whats happening with the latest on the sex scandal
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cornered by the ones that gossiped abt me
by nelly1 ini was out and about last night shopping and who should be in the shop as i go in but my x so called jw friends from my cong.....my kids were with me and i said nope im not going into that shop and having to face them.....my son was like ohh for goodness sake, he doesnt understand, anyway he convinced me... .
they of course saw me and rushed up.
these are people who put a knife in my back and who are related to that elder who likes to lie alot .
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yes you are so right, thats it shel use that encounter to gossip..... im not DF or DA i wasnt going to give them the satisfaction so that they can all go seee she left etc etc im not that dumb......but you are right
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cornered by the ones that gossiped abt me
by nelly1 ini was out and about last night shopping and who should be in the shop as i go in but my x so called jw friends from my cong.....my kids were with me and i said nope im not going into that shop and having to face them.....my son was like ohh for goodness sake, he doesnt understand, anyway he convinced me... .
they of course saw me and rushed up.
these are people who put a knife in my back and who are related to that elder who likes to lie alot .
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nelly1
i was out and about last night shopping and who should be in the shop as i go in but my x so called jw friends from my cong.....my kids were with me and i said nope im not going into that shop and having to face them.....my son was like ohh for goodness sake, he doesnt understand, anyway he convinced me..
they of course saw me and rushed up. these are people who put a knife in my back and who are related to that elder who likes to lie alot . creep!!
u know in situations like that i just dont want to be in you know....they make me so sick and when they get in my face and act like nothing happend well that really pisses me off.
but i know why should we be surprised??? nosey so and so's I was buying something and all they did was say why are you buying that why dont you do this and that, I felt like saying ohh yeah i forgot yo dont know how to mind your own buisiness!!!!!
sorry just venting...
love you all
nelly
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this is going beyond a joke what do you think?
by nelly1 ini was talking to a witness who is still in and she said they gave a talk at the hall, about submissive wives and were told that if the husband wants to go somewhere for the holiday and the wife want to go somewhere else she will need to be respectful and do what the husband wants.
and she can go on her prefered choice of holiday the following year...... .
the husband is to make all major decisions such as where they will .
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nelly1
i was talking to a witness who is still in and she said they gave a talk at the hall, about submissive wives and were told that if the husband wants to go somewhere for the holiday and the wife want to go somewhere else she will need to be respectful and do what the husband wants. and she can go on her prefered choice of holiday the following year.....
and she sent me this
The husband is to make all major decisions such as where they will
live,
if they will buy a house, where the children will attend school, etc.
He
will encourage opinions from his wife and work with her with her
choices,
but in the end if any disagreement arises he is to make the decision
based
upon what is best for the whole family.
>
> He really stressed how a husband needs to know his wife's limatations
if
there is strife in the family his prayers will be hindered she must
serve
Jehovah according to his arrangements not according to her own desires.
Each
family member must show a unselfishness and be a cheerful giver. Acts
20:
35; 1 Peter 3:7.
>
> The next one was funny and the brother made sure we knew it was
coming
from the outline. A wife can contribute to her husbands ill health if
she
prepares foods that are not good for him. Like if he is over weight or
shouldn't have cakes or such. Lots of laugh's on this one. He then
talked
about preparing the proper foods and such. I must admitt this is the
first
time I heard this one. The speaker had a good laugh over it as well
since he
was rather pudgy himself.
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> The last point was the importance of communicating. How its so
important
between parents and children as well as husband and wife. Communication
should be personal communication not just general conversatiuon and
certainly not be carried on between commercials on t.v. or a game on
the
radio or any other activity that can divert one's attention.
>what next???
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nelly1
at the end of the day, we are not micheal jacksons judge!!!
we dont know the truth only 2 people do, micheal and god
so lets leave it at that friends.
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Who watched the Jackson Interview ?
by Xandria ini am sitting here watching this shocking interview.
the reporter spent 8 months with this um, person.
i cannot believe how bizarre mr. jackson is.... and it has given me the willies.
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nelly1
yes i think micheal jackson has mental problems for sure, there is no way id dangle my baby over a balcony I dont care if president bush himself wanted to see him!!!!
you just dont do that stuff.
I think that the years of pressure as a child not normal upbringing has to have an effect on a person, some more than others and micheal is a prime example of that, and if he is an abused child he will need to regain power somewhere, and sexual abuse can be one way to try to regain it.
I guess no one knows wether hes a pedophile or not only him and god.
you have to feel pity in a way dont you, its sad in a way....but if he is a child molester then he needs help, seeing him i dont think hes a calculating one, just seriously mentally ill.
very big untouchable star, he calls the shots not his doctors so who knows if hel ever be helped :(
sad isnt it
love nelly
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Do You Feel Better Since You Stopped Meetings?
by minimus inso many witnesses have been ill. i'm not talking about the flu or a cold, either.
many witnesses suffered from ailments that were not necessarily common to most people.
i know of jw's that had to literally run out of the meetings every week because they said they were allergic to perfumes and different scents.
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nelly1
yeah i have to agree with that, i was always soo tired because of the stress they kept me under and the pressure to measure up all the time, im glad i dont have to go to those boring repetitive meetings anymore.
Edited by - nelly1 on 5 February 2003 22:37:18
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has anyone noticed lately the emphasis on elders..
by surferdude inin particular it seems like every wt for the past year or so has a section or a paragraph pumping up the elders.
or talking about them being "gifts in men"?
or like the part on the service meeting this week, interviewing an elder and making him seem better or different from the rest of the cong.
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nelly1
amen to that A paduan, here here, when are they gonna wake up?????????