I'm here to find a real reason why i can't be with my girl without a problem,
The "without a problem" part depends on her solely. She would have to leave and never look back. And even then the indoctrination is so strong that you might wake up 10 years down the road and all of a sudden she wants to go back. Tumultuous world events (wars, terrorist attacks, etc) usually trigger this because she'll think the end is near and she will be destroyed because she left. It took me more than 20 years to shake that off.
Best of luck.