I've been out over 20 years and there are still tentacles that they have in me.
I don't always realize it, either. Which is why I am here. I'm always putting together more pieces to the puzzle.
My latest discovery is that my personality has still been split into the personal and public. My private personality has healed. But my public personality has still been in salesman mode. And, I think I've been trying to sell myself as a person rather than just be myself and allowing my authentic personality to draw and repel the appropriate people to / from my life.
Over 20 years and I'm still picking up the pieces from my disfunctional childhood.