The problem is that an adult found a 14 year old sexually appealing enough to begin grooming him. Well adjusted adults don't have those attractions.
This doesn't even allow for the Romeo and Juliet exclusions which are usually no more than 2 or 3 years difference in ages.
This fits the profile of women pedophiles who are attracted to minors. They tend to view it as a romance and feel justified in their behavior, not viewing it as being an Offender at all. Internet rabbit hole: Mary Kay Letournou was a teacher who began grooming her student and ended up marrying him. She was jailed but doesn't seem remorseful. He eventually divorced her realizing that hs had been groomed and abused.
And of course, a JW anecdote: an underage marriage, a very young pregnancy, and an affair between the 14 year old JW babysitter and the young mom. Disfellowshipping, divorce, and moving far away for all involved.
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