As I was growing up I was rather a quiet one. I did good without fanfare. I rather missed out from being used in circuit assm programs, demonstrations, and talks. As I reflect back, it was probably a blessing.
Friends that where held up as examples in the circuit assm either faded out, had to be kicked out, or are barely hanging on. One sister that was used twice in a circuit assembly program for her stance in school and her pioneering is living in an intolerable marriage with her equally intolerable JW husband. Every brother I know who did a talk at the theocratic ministry at a circuit assembly years ago are depressed or has some kind of problem.
When I realized this, I stopped feeling passed-up anymore. Even felt a bit grateful. A few more years have passed, now I find the coincidence a bit scary.
Hanging low does have advantages.