It's tough when the mate is so indoctrinated. I would remember the scripture that was supposedly written by Paul that said don't be slaves of men.
You planted a seed with the dfing and how it's wrong maybe you can plant another and over time more and more. It's going to be tough depending on your age you may have to stay and make the best of it and trying to enjoy your life around it . Maybe having kids is still possible if not try to have fun with her instead of all the spiritual crap. You only live once don't waste the years you have left .