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Ruby "Hell on Heels " Tuesday

by RubyTuesday in

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trying to quit smoking

by DanTheMan in

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i resumed my smoking habit about a year before i left the borg.

i've been on and off of cigarettes since that time.

i'm trying to quit (again).

Refiners,
Hang in there. I know about the Zyban/Wellbutrin and your doctor is right. It was orginally prescribed for depression / obsessive compulsive disorder (and i guess you could say smoking could fall into the compulsive category, since it is hard to stop after the first one), but they found it works for some with smoking...it does to an extent, like I mentioned earlier...it makes one forget! I quit taking it because you can't drink while taking it (and I do like my glass of wine!). The gum works too, but tastes yucky. It all boils down to just WANTING to. I WANT to every day. I TRY every day and I do good for a while but like you said, "you can't just have one" is true. I am trying to find a healthy alternative to smoking like reading some of the posts on this site (and right now the stuff going on with that Richard guy and Robyn and....whomever is quite entertaining and somewhat tragic and silly at the same time)! wow! the stuff that goes on here can be made into a mini-series....gotta love it! Break out the popcorn! And please understand i am new here and don't know all the sides to anything therefore my question...."And the Next category is?.....

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trying to quit smoking

by DanTheMan in

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friends

i resumed my smoking habit about a year before i left the borg.

i've been on and off of cigarettes since that time.

i'm trying to quit (again).

Lassie

Refiners Fire,
Good for you! I can and know I can NOT smoke for days and weeks at a time, but why is it I just do? Is it because I am so much alone (and I don't mean that in the sad way, but because I work from home and don't get out much...by choice). I try everyday. I found a really good tape designed to help one stop smoking. It is sort of music and sounds and you can play it anytime. I listen to it in my office during the day and believe it or not, without even thinking about it I noticed that I am not smoking as much. I can listen to it all day and it doesn't annoy me (like listening to the same music over and over would). If you are interested in the title, let me know (I am not in my office right now or I would tell you). I do believe a lot of our habits are subconscious and when we let that open up, it is easier to accept change. Make sense? DON'T give up because you are an encouragement to me too!

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hello everyone

by vanilia in

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hi all, i just wanted to put up my first post, so i can be on my way to becoming a jedi :) .

i was brought up as a jo ho, as my friends called me and its amazing so many people have exactly the same experiences.. quite comforting.

keep up the good work guys.

Lassie

Welcome Vanilia...me new too! This is a great place. Enjoy.

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what can I say?

by Lassie in

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friends

i have been lurking around here for a little while and have read just about all the folders in mostly the "friends" category and seems like if i were to tell my story it would be ...yawn....boring.

i have read and almost cried (okay, so, i did really cry)during and after reading some of the stories of the your lives as jw's...i have laughed at most of the stories about stuff that goes on in the kh's (been there....and could relate or at least imagine).

then i think about my own pathetic entrance, exit, entrance, exit from the organization and it (mine) seems so hum-drum.

Lassie

So far so good. I enjoy reading just about everything here and can spend hours doing just that.
Though haven't gotten brave enough to make comments unless I can find something that I truly can relate to. (and that would be?). I HAVE learned alot about myself here. Finally! I have found that I am not alone in all these years of being "in the world" and the guilt that I have had because i want a spiritual life, but the way it has been drummed into me when I was young that anything outside the "truth" just wasn't RIGHT. I am learning there IS right in all we just have to figure out where we fit. Make sense? It is figuring out where I fit individually and make a difference not only in myself but in helping others.
Thanks for making me feel welcome. Hope i don't sound like a Dork...and if I do...oh well.

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trying to quit smoking

by DanTheMan in

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friends

i resumed my smoking habit about a year before i left the borg.

i've been on and off of cigarettes since that time.

i'm trying to quit (again).

Lassie

Sometimes you have to trick yourself. My brother told me he was going to quit and to do so he was only going to smoke after sex. I asked him how it was going and he told me he was up to a pack a day!

Seriously though, I think that the Zyban (or Wellbutrin...insurance will cover it if if is prescribed for depression...or at least that is what I have been told, but since I don't have insurance it is about $100 US for a month) works if you take it right. I think the way it works is since it was primarily designed for obsessive compulsive / depression that it sort of makes you forget and also noticed that when I would "remember" to smoke that they just didn't taste too good either. It was my choice since I didn't want the nicotine patches or gum (and by the way the gum works good too WITH the Zyban, but tastes nasty). But after taking the Zyban/Welbutrin for a month, I had forgotten to renew my prescription along with where I parked my car, put my keys, and to feed the cat (I mean cats...because after my memory came back I realized I have five cats and not only that, but a son (17yrs old)....imagine that! but hey, I was smoke free!
Just kidding about the ....what was I talking about? Oh, yeah, Wellbutrin / Zyban. It works (with you). The bottom line is you have to WANT to Stop! Not Quit, but STOP. Repeat after me: I CAN STOP SMOKING; I WILL STOP SMOKING; I AM A NON SMOKER! Good. I have found if I apply the I CAN, I WILL, I AM to anything it seems to help. Oh and if you are wondering if I am a non-smoker...NO I am not, but I keep trying. Even if it is for a few days or week at a time, I still keep trying. So don't give up....TRYING.
My 2 cents.

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what can I say?

by Lassie in

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friends

i have been lurking around here for a little while and have read just about all the folders in mostly the "friends" category and seems like if i were to tell my story it would be ...yawn....boring.

i have read and almost cried (okay, so, i did really cry)during and after reading some of the stories of the your lives as jw's...i have laughed at most of the stories about stuff that goes on in the kh's (been there....and could relate or at least imagine).

then i think about my own pathetic entrance, exit, entrance, exit from the organization and it (mine) seems so hum-drum.

Lassie

Thank you, Moreisbetter, Beenthere, Greven, Brummie, DakotaRed and CBeMe for your welcome to this forum. I would have written sooner to thank you, but (hmmm....what is my excuse?)Really I had some computer problems...and wasn't able to get online.
But I hope to make more posts here and there (even if they do put people to sleep). Of late I have been reading all that stuff about Yiz asking for money and really don't know what to think there, and based on a lot of the comments, I think I best stay out of that one if you know what I mean? But IMO what some people think as no big deal (like being afraid of losing your home over $179 mortgage payment) can be a whole lot to someone else. we don't know unless we have been in those shoes. If someone has never known anything but low income and something like that happens, it can seem like a really big deal...but regardless, i haven't been around here enough to really know anything, therefore I will just read for a while and pray that all works out for all concerned.
Thanks again for the welcome and I look forward to spending more time getting to know everyone.

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what can I say?

by Lassie in

jw
friends

i have been lurking around here for a little while and have read just about all the folders in mostly the "friends" category and seems like if i were to tell my story it would be ...yawn....boring.

i have read and almost cried (okay, so, i did really cry)during and after reading some of the stories of the your lives as jw's...i have laughed at most of the stories about stuff that goes on in the kh's (been there....and could relate or at least imagine).

then i think about my own pathetic entrance, exit, entrance, exit from the organization and it (mine) seems so hum-drum.

Lassie

thanks for the replies. I am looking forward to being an active part of this group. you guys/gals make me laugh and think, or is it think and laugh? All I know is it is a few hours till dawn here and am wondering why in the heck i am still awake...what is wrong with me...? why do I have such a horrible time at going to sleep? where are you brummie? where are you DakotaRed? Surely if you are in the US it has to be LATE (or really early). thanks for not thinking me silly.

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what can I say?

by Lassie in

jw
friends

i have been lurking around here for a little while and have read just about all the folders in mostly the "friends" category and seems like if i were to tell my story it would be ...yawn....boring.

i have read and almost cried (okay, so, i did really cry)during and after reading some of the stories of the your lives as jw's...i have laughed at most of the stories about stuff that goes on in the kh's (been there....and could relate or at least imagine).

then i think about my own pathetic entrance, exit, entrance, exit from the organization and it (mine) seems so hum-drum.

Lassie

I have been lurking around here for a little while and have read just about all the folders in mostly the "friends" category and seems like if I were to tell my story it would be ...yawn....boring. I have read and almost cried (okay, so, I did really cry)during and after reading some of the stories of the your lives as JW's...I have laughed at most of the stories about stuff that goes on in the KH's (been there....and could relate or at least imagine). Then I think about my own pathetic entrance, exit, entrance, exit from the organization and it (mine) seems so hum-drum. Regardless, I just want to say that it is really neat to find a site that tells it like it is.
See, once you are "out" you are OUT! And funny until now, I never knew that there were people that felt or thought or went through the same stupid stuff I went through. I grew up with four brothers (we fought all the time...like brothers and sisters do (in dysfunctional families....of course) and my mom referred to us as Satan's children because we would actually fight with each other to the point of rolling out the front door into the front yard...(kids!), not to mention this was during the "Fear and Loathing 70's" when we were pressured to get babtized at an early age regardless of understanding...we were subliminally encouraged to get married at a young age to avoid the sins of "dating"...at least that is how I saw it, because back then (around '74-75 it seemed like 17 yr olds were getting married).
I got baptized at 15 (I think) and had no idea what it was about other than thinking it "might"save me (or make me more attractive to the older baptized brothers... WRONG!...thank GOD now). 15 is NOT a good age to do any sort of committing! Oh well. At home we were disgusting and treated each other horribly, except for on Thursdays and Sundays and of course on those dreaded saturday of "field service" (forgot to mention the Tuesday night "book" study too). Oh how I wished I could sleep in and be a normal kid and watch cartoons or whatever kids did then....nooooo. Had to go "Knock-knock...slam, slam". We put on our pretty crappy clothes for the Kingdom Hall (you remember the 70's...ugggh) I had to wear hand me-downs from the 50's...it sucked (we were poor). Like one the young lady in a thread I read said and I feel the same, my childhood is a blank...I can't remember being a kid (not to mention I was also a survivor of the secret..."in-house" molestation, that I was to be made felt responsible for). I only remember the "rules" if I wanted Eternal life. They didn't include anything remotely fun. And if anyone thinks CONG picnics were fun...you are nuts unless you were the ones in the bushes making out with someone! But since we lived in Arizona it wasn't really possible to hide in the bushes...we couldn't hide!

I am really rambling, because I only wanted to say that I like this place. I look forward each day to getting on line and reading posts (loved all the pictures too). I am too chicken to write most of the time because I feel that I cannot compare to the stories here, nor really do I want to, I guess it just makes me feel good to know that I have not been alone all these years in my guilt....and finally am coming out of it. I smoke, drink, cuss and sometimes run for long distances or just pack up my dog and drive to New Mexico where I feel closer to something I have never felt close to in all my life....ME (did I refer to myself as a thing?). And as Martha would say, "That's a good thing". Me, I am a good THING. YOU ALL ARE GOOD THINGS TOO! THANKS.

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What should I say?

by santacruzchick in

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friends

to refresh your memories, i was raised as a jw, as of the last few yrs my mom has been inactive (she's the only jw in the family).

i was never baptized talking and talking and talking, i felt insulted because i already knew everything we were going over.

however....winter break is begins next week, so i'm going home for about a month.

Lassie

If you don't want to lie then how about just not answering the door when she knocks? If mom is inactive then maybe you can just tell mom that you really don't feel like studying with sister so-and-so because all she does is talk and you really aren't getting all that much out of her "time". Take mom shopping or to a movie that day. Hide under the bed. Get in the shower when she approaches the house. Answer the door in your underwear. Or if you just can't do any of the previous suggestions with a clear conscience then invite her in and (are you over 21?) open a beer and sit down to study (that is if you drink beer). Okay, so maybe that is extreme, but don't lie. Either be straight with your mom about how you feel or be straight with this sister. After all (and everything that I have read on this site) do you think she is all that jazzed about studying with you? (not that you are not a nice person and all, but a lot of what I read here is maybe this is just "service time" for her as well, then again maybe not). Don't sweat it. If all else fails and you cannot do any of the above or of the others suggestions...how about not coming home till Saturday?

Above all else try not to lie. Avoiding is okay, but don't lie.

For what it's worth. (not much probably)