We were saddened to read your post..
All we know is that JW's have a lot to answer for....as time goes by, Nightwarrior and I have come to realise that we as a couple and as parents to 4 lovely children is more important than anything the JWs have to offer...even though our problems with the borg were different to yours, we have realised that jealousy is rampant through the organisation...
If you look better than the body of elders, or the elders families, then you have a problem, and you can be rest assured that this will rebound on you sooner or later....
Fortunately, Nightwarrior and I did not need counselling, but we have learnt to really talk to each other, sometimes rather heated, but we have both suffered because of the JW influence in our lives... we are now coming through the other side, but it is hard, but you must keep talking...and cuddles are so important...you have to realise that life is for the living, even though the JWs feel that once you become one of the them your
lives belong to them... well I have news for you, that is just not true, but finding that out can be really hard, and wearing, but if you are determined to fight for your love and your marriage, keep going... life is certainly rosier outside of the borg..
Also remember you have so many people on here to talk too, so you are not alone... keep talking....we will all listen and try to help you..
If you want e-mail us... we are more than happy to chat and offer any help we can via the web, as we are in UK, but hey what is distance amongst friends!
Hugs
Mr and Mrs Nightwarrior