Hi R
Just say at least as possible if you should decide to go, and put nothing in writing to them!
Speaking here from experience.
Remember - pyschological warfare is being used against you. Your husband, friend and the elders. The elders want you on a knife's edge so that you feel relieved, and express all your feelings to them in the JC. Therefore, our suggestion is that you go, but admit to nothing, and say nothing. All you need to ask is - Why do you wish to see me?
have I done something wrong?
whatever you are concocting - prove it!
you are being blackmailed on an emotional level - you are being manipulated to confess to anything put before you by them.
So be strong - and treat them with the contempt that is deserving to them - and remember, the elders are seeing you not as friends, but to destroy you.,
R. Best thing call me! Cath
We can meet in London, or meet half way on the M25, or even come to see us here.
Regards
Chris and Cath (Nightwarrior)