Herd separatist mentality is herd separatist mentality, no matter what the group. It could be a group of whores trying to put up defenses in order to protect themselves against a society that judges them, or it could be a group of Jehovah's Witnesses putting up defenses against a 'wicked world' out to attack them. In this case, you were visually offensive and assaulting them.
In Bethel (and someone else chime in on this) being gay was a disease. You know how Witnesses like their “demon stories”? Bethel likes their AND THIS WILL TURN YOU GAY warnings. And (I wrote about this) you take a bunch of young men in their prime and sustain the sexual frustration of their normal development, and the straight ones are getting frustrated with suppression and the gay ones have a war raging on between their ears. Insecurity means that... in numbers... the group picks on the “weak”... in this case, that was you.
The sociology of the group is absolutely no different than that of any other. Just different colored ties.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. New Paltz had a little gay bookstore (it was so cute) and some other shops. The brothers at the Farm would comment when passing and such, but the HORRORS that Brookyln faced with the demons of NYC always circulating... as if the homoness would creep across the water from Manhattan Island and infiltrate through the windows AT ANY MOMENT.
I know I could be a little over sensitive due to the fact that I'm gay and I thought “geez there's a lot of DON'T BE GAY rules”, But seriously, I don't know a lot of straight dudes that hang out wrestling around in their underwear. Honestly...