I can tell you from my own experience that abuse happens everywhere but what do you think of this.
5 years ago I married into a family of witnesses. I lived through a lot of abuse as my husband physically, mentally and verbally abused me for years. He never laid a hand on my children until this last October. He beat my son in the face several times and then plead guilty to assault in the 4th. We have divorced and we filed an EPO. His parents were real upset with me saying that this abuse was our fault. They knew that he plead guilty and they knew of his violent history and his long criminal record.
In December, he broke into our home and beat my son with a crow bar nearly killing him. We think that he was planning to take out the whole family. He is now in jail and facing charges of attempted murder, burglary in the 1st and breaking his DVO. His family has been absolutely horrible to us. I am not a witness but was studying periodically in hopes of understanding. My children have begged me to stop studying and never marry or date another witness. They associate this behavior of my ex's with the behavior of all witnesses. His parents smile and laugh at us in court and now we worry about our safety with them on the loose. They blame us for the whole thing.
What concerns me is that evidently they believe that what their precious son is all right. These same people are going door to door for service and his father is a speaker. How can someone live double standards? What do I tell my children? How do I explain what is going on? They are scared and we are still living this nightmare each time we see his parents. Obviously, my ex learned this behavior somewhere but was it his parents?