i have read alot of the advice offered on this board and was hoping to broaden my thoughts on my problem any opinons will be appreciated.
i have been married for 3 years.
i don't have any children by this man but have 3 from a previous marriage.
Nita:
I agree with Leslie 100% get your own accounts divey up the bills and if he is willing to go to therapy great! If not start stashing money so that your not hurting when you leave. Also let your children know that you do not approve of what he is doing but don't let them feel they can pit you against each other.
Best of luck
in thinking back over the years past it makes me really sad what we have come to as jehovah's witnesses.
i never thought i would ever be at this point in my life.
in doing some new year reflections i can't help but think of the people i cared about in past years.
This last Spring my son was very ill with a tonsular abscess they told me there was only a 30% chance of it reaccuring I was horrified, knowing he was going into the Marines the "What ifs" ran through my head. Well two weeks later ta da poor kid was back in the hospital the doctor was shocked was I...NO..I mean there was ONLY a 70% chance and for me folks just not good enough.
I wish I could be as willing to "try" as Swan I don't forgive anyone that hurts a child, period and the chances of a molester doing it again is to much if it's only 1%.
Here in KC a Pastor and his wife are being charged with murder because they bound and gagged there 7 year old adopted son on Sunday night they took him to the hospital sometime Monday I believe he had been dead for awhile. Abuse is abuse but his parishoneers are standing outside the friggin church shouting they believe in there pastor, I do to I believe there cruel heartless people that should spend every waking moment in prison (since our country poo poohs death). Their other three children "showed signs of abuse". This is an instance of child abuse that can be SEEN the molester abuses and destroys the heart and soul of an INNOCENT CHILD I find that too dispicable for words.
I DO NOT FORGIVE anyone that can do that EVER and WHOA to the abuser that touches one of my family or anyone I know. I always told my kids that is the one thing that would make me kill somebody and I would be willing to go to jail for life to protect the children that would come after.
Edited by - SheilaM on 1 January 2003 20:47:41
who are the majority that are leaving?.
are they those who grew up as witnesses, and this generation realized that this is not the true religion and leave?.
or maybe a witness who had a position of power, such as an elder or ms, or maybe had some insight from bethel, and saw too much?.
We have both here and in my hubbies family: My hubby and children were raised in the crapand I started in 1983. He also has some sisters that have left too.
<edited like all my others cause I can't friggin spell sometimes>
Edited by - SheilaM on 2 January 2003 11:13:30
http://www.globe.com/dailyglobe2/001/metro/suit_charges_church_coverup+.shtml
suit charges church coverup.
jehovah's witness group is blamed in abuse of girl.
This just makes me sick and they think they have the friggin TRUTH there is not love in them or spirituality. Jesus said to PROTECT and LOVE the children When I mentioned the abuse to my <JERK. brother in law S (btw) (My hubby has 11 brothers and sisters for those who have seen me talking about my other bil) he said he thought it was <now get this remark> OVERBLOWN, I was Imailing with him and that remark turned me venomous I was trying to be calm but I wanted to SLAP him. Then his next remark is " I guess you think the Catholic church should be boiled in oil for this too, I was damn straight anyone that KNEW and protected these friggin pervs should be.
Sometimes I think my hubby was adopted or something his friggin family can be so F**** U* this is a man that was disfellowshipped for fighting with his brother, they drug him through hell and back and he is BLIND to their savagery. Just makes me want to hurl when I realize I trusted these bastards and they are using the name of God to get families and people to trust them to abuse.
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to all:.
my hubby and i are getting ready to self publish his book was wondering if any avid readers would like an excerpt that would be willing to give us feedback on it.
UPDATE ON BOOK!!!!
Thunder Rider's Burden contract is signed!!!! I need a couple of more excerpts for the back cover for those who have read it I will be e-mailing you to see if I may use a comment.
The COVER is almost done thanks to those that offered to help me!!
I will be posting the cover and the "synopsis" off the back for you all
Thanks we couldn't have gotten this far without you all
SheilaM and Thunder Rider
simon- the referee smurf .
valis, the overbeer smurf .
comf .
Xena:
GEESH until I read Simon's post I thought it was my "class" comment that had hurt you I WAS JUS JOKIN!!! Now I see someone wasn't I LOVE the thread it show's great imagination and humou!
It's SMURFAHAHAHAH!!!!
i need some advice.
i have been dating this guy for 3 years.
of those 3 years, he has cheated on me many many times, but i can only prove some.
Richard:
Thanks so much for mentioning what so few men will talk about wives that abuse, that was VERY BRAVE of you Everyone needs to know it doesn't matter the sex of the person male female if they hit you LEAVE, run don't walk and never look back.
SheilaM
my husband, who's a ministerial servant, was approached by an elder and asked if he'd offer our home to become a 'book study' meeting place.. i'm a bit of a loner, and need lots of peace, quiet, privacy, and solitude; plus to boot you all know i'm living this sort of double life, you know, just doing the very minimum to remain a witness.. this is awful!!!!!!!!!!
i can't deal with it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
take care!
I personally would tell him you just can't deal with this at this time, I would start a major project painting the room he wants to be in for instance if he is one that can't take a hint. If all else fails I would tell him that it is YOUR house as much as his and you don't want people traipsing in and out every Tuesday (if that is the day they have the study...I swear I have BLOCKED WAYYYY TOO MUCH of this stuff)
to all of you that have got to the new year and are nursing hangovers, .
to all of you that have nearly got there and are a bit closer than the ones that are getting there.
happy new year and a peacefull 2003.. take care,.
HAPPY 2003 to EVERYONE!!!!!
May it be filled with peace and prosperity
and NO DUB's
cremated remains of woman 'made into a diamond stone'
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