Jaidubdub

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  My decision to openly greet df persons in the hall

  by Daniel1555 in

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  at the moment i am still going to all the meetings (for family reasons).. we have at the moment 1 df person who regularly comes (already df for 1.5 years).. when i opened him the door i always greeted him but in the hall i didn't as others could see it.. now i decided that my conscience can not bear this any longer.

  i will greet him also in the hall or when others are around.. if any elders notice it and talk to me, i tell them my conscience does not allow to not greet that person.. did any of you do that too and have some experiences?.

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  I've always greeted & smiled at d'fed ones I know. I also don't remove them as fb friends. and if I saw a family member of a d'f done, I always asked about the d'fed one & if I was close to the d'fed one, I would ask that they pass on my love to them & that I missed them. Many times I saw the pain & tears in the loved ones eyes. My beautician is d'fed & I still go to her & so do a few other jw's. i have d'fed family so I know the division & pain it causes within a family. This has to be one of the most heartbreaking & inhumane practice I have ever seen.

  Good on you Daniel...
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  Late for meeting ;-)

  by jw07 in

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  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbqm2ytqhy4.

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  he forgot his new grey bible...
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  Do You Think Many Engaged JW Couples Fooled Around B4 Marriage?

  by minimus in

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  when i was an elder, i had a few couples approach me to confess that they either played around or went all the way.. i suspect there were many more that did not admit to it, though..

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  Guilty. But we Never were engaged, just dating. We lived in different cities & when each time either of us travelled to see the other, we spent most of our time in the hotel room. felt guilty at first but got over that eventually. And we told no one - wasn't anybody's business...
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  No Hand Holding During Prayers But Door to Door?

  by blondie in

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  http://www.nanaimodailynews.com/life/the-next-three-days-1.284082.

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  this was the very first article in the WT that made me think Something wasn't right with this religion...
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  Proof of a Kingdom Hall being sold to a church!

  by Sittingstraight1212 in

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  it cracks me up if you bring this subject up to a witness , they always try to convince themselves that i'm reading into this!!!.

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  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpqwknq31ie&feature=youtube_gdata_player.

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  My old KH was a church when they bought it (can't remember which one) and they sold it to another religious group years later...
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  My granny died.

  by LouBelle in

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  last week friday i was delayed in going to work, for which i am glad.

  it was an opportunity for me to help my gran one last time.

  she thanked me, told me she loved me and that i would be very blessed.

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  So sorry for yr loss LouBell
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  Are JWs more tight with money than normal people?

  by Julia Orwell in

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  actually, in my experience, i have not found them to be tighter or more generous with money.

  i've found them to be about the same with handling money as non-jws, though less likely to invest their money, but unlikely to waste it on cigarettes, pubs/clubs and gambling like many non-jws do.

  i certainly don't find them tighter or stingier than normal people though, and slightly more honest.. what are your experiences with jws and money compared to non-jws and money?.

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  From my observations, I think it depends on the person & their financial circumstances more than their religion.

  It's not customary to tip where I live but depending on what group of people I am out with depends on how tight they are. Most of the jw's I socialise with normally give a little extra, especially when the service was good. One of my closest jw friend & her husband are very generous & giving whether it's paying for yr dinner or a drink, and giving gifts, not cause they have to I.e. Birthday, Christmas, but coz they want to. its their ways of thanking those that mean a lot to them. But they are only that way towards those they consider their real friends. Btw - they are generous to both their jw & non- jw friends. On the other hand, I know some, both jw & non-jw that are so tight with their money it becomes embarressing. I have seen that behaviour with both jw & non-jw's. I have seen some (both jw & non-jw) who are normally generous with giving who have had to suddenly watch every penny coz of losing their job so have had to become 'tight' with their money to pay for necessary expenses like their mortgage and utilities and other everyday expenses or they are saving up for their dream holiday or a house. I have also seen some (both jw & non-jw) that are wealthy but they are embarrassingly tight with money...
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  It appears the Ex-JW community is having a huge impact on the way funerals are being handled at the KH

  by StoneWall in

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  just wanted everyone to know that i got back today/night from my second jw funeral in less than 3 months and that both of them (2 different halls),were handled completely different than in times past.. used to be it seemed like a recruitment opportunity (as many of you have pointed out before), but these last two times it was totally different from previous times.

  it didn't seem like they used the outline at all that had been posted in another thread a while back.. that was kinda interesting and refreshing at the same time to actually hear them focus more on the individual that had passed instead of only a few minutes about them and the rest all about the org.

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  I went a jw funeral a few weeks ago of a close friend's mum had died. The only mention of their teaching was a mention of this persons love of 'the truth' and the hope she had of the resurrection. The rest of the service was focused on the life of the person. It was presented by the deceased BIL who is an elder...
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  ELDERS STEPPING DOWN

  by ADJUSTMENTS in

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  2. experiences

  between two congregations that i know of four elders have stepped down in the last two months!

  there is something really going on in this mandmade organization!

  it's busting at the seams!.

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  I was in a cong for years that was very well know for corrupt elders. So much so that it became a bit of a joke amongst many of the R&F. If any elder lost their position for any wrong doing in another congregation, they moved into our congregation. Within weeks, they become an elder. We had some elders who were appointed that tried to do the right thing. But they had to go along with corruption, step down or move to another congregation to serve. They were left feeling defeated. As you can imagine, we had many problems. If u sucked up to the corrupt elders, you were left alone. If not, u were picked on. That was when I started missing meetings and decreased the time I spent out witnessing. Took me a few years before I became totally inactive...

  How can these elders be appointed by god's spirit? This was when I started questioning this Religion....
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  Apologies for outage

  by Simon in

  1. forum
  2. announcements

  looks like the forum went down (right after i went to bed, doh!)..

  i really should get some monitoring setup but it's been pretty rock solid for ages so i've never bothered.. must be something todo with all the tinkering i've been doing and the background job i started running yesterday.. anyway, sorry for anyone who's been trying to access the site..

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