My step mother was never a Witness and my father was disfellowshipped 28 years ago for smoking. He quit about 20 years ago.
Since his death some Witnesses have called for us kids at the house. Each time my step mother has answered the phone. While it is nice they are calling to offer my brother and sister support NOT ONCE have any of them offered condolence to her. This is her house, her phone number, one would think common courtesy would mean extending condolence to the widow. Especially since she supported all us kids in our decision to remain witnesses. She drove us regularly to meetings when we were teenagers and never spoke badly about our religion. She was following the pattern my father had started and continued.
If anyone deserves some kind of acknowledgement from the JW's as a 'friendly non-Witness' it is her. But as a result of this she even better understands my decision to quit this group of socially inept people. She has become so bitter due to the lack of basic human compassion. She is no longer Witness friendly at all.
My JW sister has been forced to admit that the JW's thusfar have been cold and heartless. One more seed planted.
Love amongst themselves??? Yeah right. (sarcasm intentional)
My more fanatical JW is supposed to be coming to town for the funeral, this despite the fact he only is in contact with my Dad about every 2-3 years with a 3 minute phone call. My step mom has said "fine he disfellowshipped his father and chose not to have his father in his life. Why does he now want a relationship now he is dead. I am now shunning him."
My brother just doesn't understand why my step mom feels this way. "She just doesn't get the disfellowshipping thing, does she?" When he gets shunned he says it is persecution, but when he shuns others it is honorable and should be accepted. Some people will never get it. sigh
JW's seem to demand understanding and compassion from everyone else. Yet when they are cold hearted people are supposed to just accept it. If ever I had doubts about my decision to leave, this week has clinched it.
What a Witness they are making for themselves. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Uzzah