Thanks Sunspot!
Your experience is very comforting. I am glad to hear things worked out in the end. It is dear friends who have helped me though this one.
jillbedford
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
Thanks Richy Rich.
I have given this a lot of thought. I gave her the car I worked hard to get for her. She can keep it. it is in my name now., My attourney tells me to put it in my ex-husband's name now so he will be responsible for the insurance. I plan to follow his instructions.
I have followed your posts and find you a wise young man.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
I did do the best I could. I worked 2nd shift for many years. I did this to provide insurance and college opportunities for my daughter. I called at 10p everyday to make sure she was home. Sometimes she was, sometimes she was not. But lately she has be not on time to school, sometimes not getting to school until noon. But she leaves home at 7:30a. So where is she is the meantime?
I guess the Ex will have to follow her comings and goings now.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
Thanks Honesty! You have always been a good friend. It helps that you know who the Ex is.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
Thanks guys. You are so much comfort and good advice.
I am thinking about the overtime I worked, because as I mentioned the ex NEVER paid any child support. I was able to provide for her money for college, which she may not be able to take advantage of since she may not finish high school. I provided her own bedroom and her own bathroom. She was ungrateful for any of this, destroying these rooms. It took me 4 hours of cleaning to get these rooms inhabitable.
As far as my husband goes, does anyone have much sex after age 35 anyway? Aren't we past the prime for that?
I own a VERY successful business with my husband so this is our bond. After working for years in an ungratef ul Dilber world I am finally free. He has been a huge asset in the business. So this is our bond, thin as it is.
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LOVING AN ORGANISAION MORE THAN YOUR FAMILY?
by badboy inwere there such people in your congregation?
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jillbedford
My uncle, aunt and grandmother have been disfellowshipped since 1980 for apostacy, leaving with Franz. My witness family has nothing to do with them. But of course I do. And since I left quietly I can still talk to them to. If I were to want to.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
Thanks,
Husband problems are a whole other post on some other day. for some reason her does not find her attractive in "that way". I am in shape. I run competitively, winning my age division. I am almost 40, so many he does not like that. He is almost 40 too though.
But men can be replace, children can not.
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Broken Heart
by jillbedford inmy almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her dad last thursday.
this is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a c. she has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence i told her this last wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car i gave her on her 16th birthday.
she said she was leaving to live with her dad.
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jillbedford
My almost 17 year old daughter left to stay with her Dad last Thursday. This is the second time she has left due to my strict rules, like 10p school day curfue, get to school on time, keep your grades above a C. She has not kept to my rules, so as a consequence I told her this last Wednesday night she has lost driving priviledges of the car I gave her on her 16th birthday. She said she was leaving to live with her Dad. I held the door shut and told her she was not allowed to live with her Dad. I am the sole custodial parent. He has NEVER paid child support or paid any interest in her. His weekend visits have not been taken advantage of. Once every 3 or 4 months he allows her to drive to his house and visit for a couple of hours.
Ex-husband was a witness since birth same as me. I hear he is an atheist now.
In the morning on Thursday she was gone with most of her things. The next day almost everything was gone. The weekend passes, no calls from her. On Monday I packed up what was left in her room, putting anything of value in storage. I re-decorated the room. It is a room of peace and solitude now. She calls on Tuesday and says she wants her old broken dresser. I tell her I threw it out because it was broken. She asks about her posters. I tell her these are gone to. I mention a few things that are saved for her in storage. Ten minutes later the ex-husband calls saying he needs her social security card and birth certificate as well as her w-2. He demands to know when this will be delivered. I bit my tongue. But when exactly will the $15,000 in back child support be paid. (I still have not mailed these items.) She also has this car. As the custodial parent, I can not allow no insurance to be paid on it. At the moment it is on my our insurance policy. I spoke to my attourney. He suggests I sign the car over to the ex so he will have to provide insurance for it. In regard to the W-2, he can forget that, she was with me all of 2006 so I am claiming her as a dependant. I know how he thinks.
I have since received another letter from my daughter's high school in regard to her truency issues. Juvenille court is mentioned.
I have always been told your teenagers bring problems. But right now my heart is broken like it has never been before. No man can break your heart like your own child can.
I contemplate what I have done wrong to find myself in this place. Should I have stayed a witness and with my first husband, making my daughter adhere to the witnesses rules for conduct? Because with the choices I have made I find I am with the second husband, who I have not had sex with since we married in 2001. My daughter has gone to her Dad's house. She has been disrepectful of me most of her life.
Since this is the second time she has left home, I have changed the locks and emptied her room. She is not coming home easily. My head says she does not need to come home at all. My heart misses her terribly.
I find myself in tears or close to tears almost every day. I am thinking I need to get medication or something. I find myself in prayer all the time.
You kind folks have always been a huge comfort, so any words of wisdom will help.
I hope you have a peaceful and focused day.
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The One Thing You Could Never Give Up.
by lowden inwell.........here i am, a few pints of guinness further on and it got me thinking.. i luuurve guinness with a passion but what could i never give up in a month of sundays?.
hmmmmmm...well it's definitely not alcohol....i don't think .
for me, it's my music, my george lowden guitar (damn i've blown my cover) and all the amazing vibes that playing, singing and songwriting gives me.. what could you not give up...........in a month of sundays.. peace.
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jillbedford
I really like Guiness too when it is a little warmer than right out of the fridge.
But I haven't drunk any in a long time due to some personal choices in regard to my alcohol consumption.
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Guess who came around breakfast...
by ColdRedRain inyup.
jw's.
i told them to come over tomorrow.
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jillbedford
It must be that time of the year when the elders are doing their sheparding visits to "help" those who have fallen away from the "flock" to return to the "fold".
DON'T DO IT!