@cofty ...
Similar thing in my old KH.
Had a family move in with two kids. Extremely nice kids and the wife was so kind. He was DF'd.
I don't think they missed a meeting in three years. Apparently, he was not aware that you had to ask to be reinstated and thought it was just something that is automatic.
Anyway, he was reinstated. They came to maybe one or two meetings after that and were never at the KH again. The elders made some excuse that he was working too much or something. But that was it.
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