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  What Were You Told That You Had To Work on By The Elders?

  by minimus in

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  the elders feel obliged to have you work on at least, something.

  what did they tell you?

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  berylblue

  I think the question which begs asking is, "What did I NOT have to work on"?

  Hmmmm....loving my children. Before I was told about all my (perceived) flaws, I was always told, "It's obvious you love your daughters".
  Then I'd get hit with the meeting attendance, preparation ,study, attitude, lack of humility when being corrected, inability to accept love from the congregation (meaning correction), complaining (this was valide, I bitched all the time), lack of organization, ...you name it.

  Rosemarie
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  Ever have an affair????????????????

  by jurs in

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  i've been married 14 long years to a real s.o.b.

  and i think i might just take that plunge.

  i was having a drink at a bar last week with a gal i work with.

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  berylblue

  Yes.

  The man with whom I became involved was just amazing. Gorgeous, intelligent, witty, talented. He has gone on to win major awards in his profession. I learned from him how utterly fabulous sex could be, the result being that relations with my husband became even more intolerable. (Side note: That really led to the start of my drinking. I couldn't bear sex with the husband anymore, so I had to have a few glasses of wine to get me through it. )

  To make a long, painful story short, although I only wanted some attention and fun in the beginning, in the end I fell completely in love with my lover, although this was not my intention. I just wanted what I perceived to be an extraordinary man. He was, in all ways but one: He was a coward. In the end, he decided he didn't have the gutts to make our relationship known and to make a life with me. It was not that he didn't love me, but that he lacked the courage to commit. In retrospect, I don't blame him at all.

  However, I was devastated. It took me about three years to get over him. Well, almost over him. I can't say I 'm completely over him, even 20 some years later.

  I'm not saying this is what will happen, merely what happened to me.

  I can totally relate being married to someone who is....well, a jerk. I can totally understand how it feels to want some affection and passion and excitement. I don't remember if you mentioned children? I don't think for a minute you'd want to hurt them....

  Please proceed carefully. I am sure you don't want to hurt anyone, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that YOU may get hurt in your quest for some happiness....

  Rosemarie

  "Miss Sugar and Vice, you paid a dear price

  For letting that man melt your armor of ice

  Your flaws are apparent, but who'll ever know

  of the beauty within you? The fire you can't show?"

  Crystal Coletti, "The Nature of the Ilness"
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  How do big guys at Brooklyn benefit from six million followers?

  by micheal in

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  i am 99.999% sure jw's do not have the truth, but maybe some here can enlighten me.

  what do the big guys in brooklyn have to gain?

  do you believe they think they have the truth.

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  berylblue

  This is an excellent question, one which I've pondered for a while but just can't seem to find a satisfactory explanation. Perhaps because I'm not into "power", I just don't understand the appeal. But then again, I'm trying hard to remember that not every one is like me (gee, Rosemarie, what a frigging epiphany!!!! But you know what I mean....sometimes, it's difficult to understand how someone could want something in which you have no interest. And the only power I have ever wanted was to make people laugh...now THAT's power....a really fun kind...)

  I'm not explaining myself well tonight. (Tonight???)

  Does anyone at all understand what I mean? I myself can't understand wanting power so badly that one will hurt others to get it, and hurt many, many others to maintain it. I'm not sayingI don't believe the GB are not doing just that, merely that I myself can't understand it.

  I'm leaning toward believing that some GB members do love the power, and others are honest in their intentions, but very blinded and misguided (to say the least).

  Rosemarie
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  I think I am even being shunned here.

  by Holey_Cheeses*King_of_the juice. in

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  i came to this site via freeminds.com and am really quite surprised to learn that this site is maintained by active jw's (am i correct?

  - i'm a slow learner).

  i get the feeling i maybe getting the shun treatment, which is okay, for i understand that for the mindset from which it originates.

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  berylblue

  Oh, by the way,

  WELCOME!
  
  Rosemarie

  PS Where the hell is Dansk these days?
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  I think I am even being shunned here.

  by Holey_Cheeses*King_of_the juice. in

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  i came to this site via freeminds.com and am really quite surprised to learn that this site is maintained by active jw's (am i correct?

  - i'm a slow learner).

  i get the feeling i maybe getting the shun treatment, which is okay, for i understand that for the mindset from which it originates.

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  berylblue

  I have yet to have Frakel answer one of mine

  Me too, and I'm not exactly losing any sleep over it. No offense, Farky.

  Rosemarie
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  how i got here

  by danb71 in

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  after having looked at this site for almost a year and recently made small replies to threads, i should introduce myself to you all and tell you how i got here:.

  i was raised as a jw.

  it didn't take long to figure out that to have more independence at home, i'd better be a stand-out jw.

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  berylblue

  Welcome, Dan

  Rosemarie
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  I Need advice on Women.

  by spectromize in

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  okay, here is a few questions concerning women that i would like a little help with.. supposing your trying to get some lady's attention because your interested in her, what is a good approach without sounding to cheesy?

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  another question is how do you know and what are the indications that the girl is taking interest in you, and what are the indications she wants you to take a hike?

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  berylblue

  I think in all fairness she should of told me after the length of time we dated

  Yes, she should have, but this sort of subject is extemely difficult to discuss, as the "sufferer" has no idea how others will react when she reveals her "illness". More than likely, she has gotten reactions ranging from disbelief to denial ("no, you're not like that") to horror and everything in between. No wonder emotionally ill persons are not inclined to tell others. It's still considered a sign of weakness (as though someone would choose to be this way) at best, and carries a tremendous stigma.
  

  I do the exact opposite. Within three dates, I usually let a man know that I have had some psychiatric DXs. Excessive? Perhaps, but I feel it's better to get it out of the way as soon as possible. If he wants to head for the hills, that's fine with me. No one can ever say I didn't warn him....

  Rosemarie

  Apparently, Tim isn't going anywhere anytime soon.....
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  I Need advice on Women.

  by spectromize in

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  2. relationships

  okay, here is a few questions concerning women that i would like a little help with.. supposing your trying to get some lady's attention because your interested in her, what is a good approach without sounding to cheesy?

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  another question is how do you know and what are the indications that the girl is taking interest in you, and what are the indications she wants you to take a hike?

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  berylblue

  My advice ? BE YOURSELF !

  Simon is right. Be yourself. At times, we may have to be a better, more attentive "self" than we normally would be, but don't ever feign something you are not. I can't speak for all women, but I know many find artificiality a big turn off. Not that you would do that, but just so you know.

  You seem very sincere, intelligent, kind and caring. Those are very appealling qualities. Good luck to you!

  Rosemarie
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  tKingdom Melodies I remember/liked.

  by ScoobySnax in

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  ok bucking the trend here, but there was some kms i liked, alot of stick has been given to "gods loyal love"....well i liked that one.

  nice melody.. i think song 4 "gods promise of a paradise" too.

  and song number 15 "life without end at last".....remember this was in the brown book....still like that one, especially at conventions, always guaranteed to be on the sunday programme, still get teary eyed at that one.. what i want to know is what happened to "keep your eyes on the prize"....i can remember writing those words out on a sheet and hanging it in my room, surely the classic jw kingdom melody of all time...guaranteed at conventions circa 70's/80/s......still miss it, and hum it even now occasionaly.

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  berylblue

  Keep Your Eyes on the Prize

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  Walking in Integrity
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  Ozzie's Weekend Poll #45

  by ozziepost in

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  45 today!!!

  yep, we've been going for around a year on these weekend polls.

  worth a celebration?

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  berylblue

  You could be infested by demons by buying second-hand goods.

  As though said demons couldn't infest the goods while being produced at a factory.

  Rosemarie