I am sorry but I could never 'let them know you respect their position' if you really don't! I say lay on the guilt trip! pour it on thick! tell them they are worse than animals adandonning a child of theirs because a cult told them too! I say show how angry you are and let them have ot with both barrels. As far as them saying they have no choice---dont let them play you like that! Tell them they have every choice and to let a cult dictate their lives is choosing to let a cult dictate their lives.
respect for their beliefs is bullcrap. who says we have to be tolerant of everything and everyone? this is wrong. send them a copy of CoC and tell them you have read 'where it is written' too and you have come to different conclusions. I say if you don't care if you ever talk to them again then go for the gold! They started it with the pretended 'honesty' approach...give em back as good as they dished out. dont play by their rules---you are not a JW and dont have to! Just because they said they will shun you does not mean you have to shun them and 'respect' that nonsense!
Ravyn, who respects only those who deserve it and only those beliefs worth respecting.(hint--and JWs aint neither!)