Blue I too hate my ex-husband (he was an elders son, I thought i was safe with a elders son), He ended up being a lying cheating, dope smoking a$$ hole.. I was 5 months pregnant with his child when I left him, he refused to acknowledge that it was his kid. It was the easy way out for him, thinking I was the cheating one, rather than his cheating ass.
Anyway, I came back home to Canada, where I was able to have our first born under our health program and didn't have to pay through the nose to have her. Shortly after I gave birth to my daughter, I started going out with xjw, we had a great friendship, skiied together, and eventually fell in love, got married, he adopted my first child. Now 14 years after marriage, and having two of our own, my a$$hole ex decides to get back into the picture, (of course thanks to my jw parents, who disowned me because I left the jw and now that my ex was back in good standing in a congreation they sided with him now). BASTARDS!!!. Sorry Simon, I'm venting.
Yeah so now the arse is seeing my daughter, after all these years. Yes, he never had to pay support for her ever. But when she comes to me for money, I do not make it easy for her. I figured he missed all these years of paying its time for him to pay up, if he wants anything to do with her. I do not, as a mother feel obligated to her anymore. She is 23 years old. I paid my dues. XJW paid his dues. Not to say we won't help her, but if he wants to be part of her life 20 years later, then he must pay.
cj
of the "ex dead beat husbands, can go to hell class"