I'll tell you guys something, being nice doesn't get you anywhere in this world. Being nice gets your heart broken, gets you walked all over, and taken advantage of. Whenever someone sees you as a nice guy, they'll see you as a person they can take advantage of, and you'll let them because you're nice.
A recent post (see above) on politeness got me to thinking. Do women prefer Jerks over nice Guys? There's some intresting info on this at: http://www.sosuave.com/niceguys/default.htm. Everyone please let me know what you think.
I've always felt that nice guys finished last, especially with the females. I hated that when I was growing up and started dating
" You're a nice guy.......................but, I'd rather go out with Billy Joe. You know the guy, who treats me like crap, and cheats on me, but we've known each other since we were kids, when he used to beat me up, and spit on me. But don't feel bad.......you're a nice guy.
xjw_b12 who equated " You're a nice guy " with " Dear John "
I remember when I first met my husband, I was struck by just how nice, and considerate, he was to me. After constantly being hit on by idiots, who never got anywhere with me BTW, I found his demeanor refreshing.
LOL! Not at your story / life, but how you described it. Your biography would not sell well written like that!
Anyways, a buddy of mine was holding open a door for a lady.. she starts to FREAK because he is being a MALE CHOVANIST (spelling!) PIG! So, he just goes, ok! Lets the door close, and smacks her right in the face. True story. We had a good laugh!
Shamus, I decided to stick to the facts. I have posted most of this...takes too long to tell the stories over again.
I think it is really nice when anyone opens a door for me. Being brought up in the 70's, I had Helen Reddy in my head (I am Woman hear me roar.....you know the rest). When someone is nice I am not sure if I am supposed to say "No, thank you I can do it" or "Thank you" and smile.
It has taken a long time to get to the point of saying "Thank you" and accepting the politeness. That makes no sense I know, however, I was told to never rely on anyone. Learn how to do it yourself. I did.
My husband is the most wonderful man I have ever met. He is everything positive I can think of. He doesn't usually open doors for me. He will for other women. That is nice. I know that if I need him he is there for me.
I very glad I dumped the wife beater and hooked up with a truly sweet man.
I have decided! Most men know it to be a fact that most women at least in thier younger years go after the Jerks.
I believe that is true Merc.
I also had bad examples. My dad left when I was 12 and was not around much before that. My mom hooked up with a wife beater when I was 18; I followed suit after helping her get out of that marriage and get counseling. Sometimes you just have to learn it for yourself.
I got lucky. I called the shelter that worked with my mom. They helped me. I was only married for 11 months.
