hi,
well according to the dire warnings about dangerous internet sites.i guess i am about to become an 'apostate' with this my first post......
i'm teetering on the edge after 40 years in the borg..
i empathise with your situation..your wife is probably facing awkward situations without you at the meetings..
in my experience the questions,innuendo,imputing comes from so called concerned 'sheep'
who are basically trying to pick up on juicy goss to share with other numb minds(beats actually trying to emulate their exemplar!!!!)
pressure is put on family members within..the attempt is to embarras u back and what better way than an emotional pressure(not t mention the emotional pressure u are already both experiencing and trying to come to terms with)..elders will generally sit back hoping something might come of this
in my own situation pressure was brought on my elderly mother too to shame me back and i know the elders did their check ups on me through her..
i'm seriously considering a total break and inventing a 'new life' away from the pressures that still haunt..
anyway i wish u the best in your endeavours
heartfelt best wishes
sheepwithnoname