rastapau
As others have noted, every few weeks someone in the same position as you shows up on this site looking for the same assistance. Based on what you tell us about Little Ms. Can't Be Wrong, she has been Dishonest with you. Selfish and Manipulative. Her current plan to get you to study and be baptized in the cult or the relationship is off is emotional blackmail of the highest order, and a continuation of the trifecta of vileness she has consistently shown: Selfish. Dishonest. Manipulative.
I've known a lot of dub girls in similar situation who took their dub DFing punishment, got married to the non-Dub guy and gradually worked their way back into favor and reinstatement into the cult. Without 'requiring' or blackmailing the non-dub man. Little Ms. Can't Be Wrong apparently doesn't view that as an option.
Isn't that special.
There does not appear to be any redeeming values with this woman, with or without the cult's influence. I take exception with those who would blame shift her black personality traits on to the cult. She owns them. They belong to her. Making excuses for this wretched person will only keep you in her grips.
As Maya Angelou once said: "When someone shows you who they are, Believe them." The first time.