BOTR,
Ive only been on this site for about 11 months or so. I realized within a few months that it wasn't really for me, as 90% of the OPs are theist and very JW specific, both of which nauseate me. Ive been out of the Borg 20 years and spent it living life; to be dragged back into Borgland is something I have no desire to do. Having said that, the only rational, factual discussions I typically read on this board are driven by the atheists amongst us.
The theist posts can be touchly lovely group huggy, since it's essentially everyone's opinion (which is why the preachers with 'special knowledge' on this site disgust me). When the topic changes to science, technical issues or simply about non-theist topics, the 'bar' for posting becomes much, much higher. Anyone bringing their 'feelings' or 'beliefs' or what they 'think' or the one dimensional 'knowledge' (all of which are absolutely freaking wonderful in theist conversations) to serious discussions will be nuked by those of us trained to expect facts and the support of those facts to a debate.
That essentially is the root cause analysis of the 'strife' on this site. People who pine for a purple dinosaur group hug for every OP - or who expect their irrational, reactionary, intellectually shallow or non-existent opinions to be respected on non-theist posts - are delusional. They continually get upset by the 'tone' when, if one very closely analyzes the root cause, is not so much the tone as they will never, ever, ever (credit to Taylor Swift) win any of these arguments. That, IMHO and based on a rational 11 month observation of the 'problem', is the real root cause.