TheDoctor,
I understand completely what you are feeling. The anger I had after learning that the Dark Lords had misled us all was overwhelming. I hit the ground running upon my exit of the cult over 20 years ago, channeling my anger into positive actions.
I went back to school, completing 2 college degrees over a period of 5 years - and working on a third, volunteering, traveling a lot, spending enormous amounts of time with my two beautiful, amazing children who also exited with me, and simply trying to recapture what I had wasted spending so many years in the Dark Tower.
I haven't looked back. I didn't join or participate in any ex-Dub forums until 2 years ago upon joining this site. I spent the previous 20 or so years living my life to the full.
That's how I handled my anger. But I'm still angry at those evil men. I try every day to use it as rocket fuel.