Ok this is all very overwhelming. I want to make sure I convey exactly the things that I want to say here.
Firstly I would like to say that by posting my story was in no way asking for or wanting sympathy, the main reason I wanted to post it was because I want people I talk to on a day to day basis to understand the inner workings of myself. The 2 nd reason was because I wanted some on here that are otherwise inclined to get a positive, direct and raw insight on exactly what people have to go through to be true to themselves when they are gay. Thirdly I want to help other people gay/lesbian/transgender/straight to relate and gather strength from my strength. The reasons are all 100% important to me, despite them being place in a particular order does not mean that they are of lesser importance than the reason above them.
I have been using the internet and chat for at least half of my lifetime so I am very familiar with it. So let me be the first it saying how ridiculous it is to be offended by me sharing northern girls Message to me. The reason why it’s ridiculous is because PM’s are a way of communicating something to one person without having to discuss it with another person. For example, if my friend Vanessa rang me on the phone or was to come and talk to me at home while everyone else was busy doing something and told me such and such, wouldn’t I be able to convey that message to my boyfriend or whoever else ? On the other hand if Vanessa was to say to me I’m telling you this but I would like for you not to mention it to anyone the matter would be different again. To compare a PM with a Priests use of information is stupid !
I have received many PM’s on this site that are particularly personal and private and are said as such, I wouldn’t even dream of sharing even a small portion of them with anyone else. I think that the idea of ALL PM’s being private and secret comes from to many of you bitching about other people on this site in secret, which is fine with me, bitch all you like but for god sake don’t try and compare it.
I felt it was important to show this message of northern girls because of my above reasons for posting my story in the first place. I, as a gay man have had many people like northern girl talk to me separated from other people and tell me their harsh view of me .. It’s very disheartening and difficult to deal with .. Especially when your weak and new to expressing how you feel. It’s important that I show this to other people that might just be coming to terms with being “out” because it can have such a negative effect that you feel that the feelings and thoughts of these type of people are what to expect from most people, when in fact it’s the opposite which this thread thanks to me posting it and northern girls PM have shown.
I would also like to point out this which I cut and pasted directly from the terms of use above ..
4. You acknowledge that communications to or with bulletin board services, chat areas, news groups, forums, communities and/or other message or communication facilities are not private communications, therefore others may read your communications without your knowledge. You should always use caution when providing any personal information about yourself or your family.
Although I WOULD NOT share anything sombody told me in confidence in PM unless of course the situation was extreme to the point of being a police matter.
Monk3y
I thank the rest of you for your heartfelt thoughts, it is much appreciated.