Posts by TheSilence

i am talking about 'regular stalkers' who stalk you for the obsessive psychological reason of needing to be near you physically.. ever been followed?.

ever had the feeling someone was looking through your windows?.

Several years ago there was a guy who would come in every day during my shift and sit for 8 hours and just watch me work. On occaission he would talk to me and say... just off the wall things. They offered to have him permanently evicted, but from things he said I felt like that would only push him into seeking me outside of work. And as there is security, suveillance, and the missouri highway patrol crawling all over the casino at all times I felt better just letting him watch me work and hoping it didn't escalate. But I kept everything documented so that if it ever did exceed the boundaries of my work environment I was ready to take action.

It ended because I took 10 days of vacation one time and he asked one of my co-workers where I was. My wonderful co-worker had the presense of mind to tell him I had moved to California. He has never been to the casino since that day, and I do check his account every 6 months or so just to be sure.

Unfortunately that doesn't seem as though it will be terribly helpful for you since he knows where you live. Please be safe.

Jackie

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My Daugthers refusal to join us for secular holidays!

by KARINNJIM in

i don't understand, why my daugther refuses to come to her home during both thanksgiving and christmas.

we are trying to understand her beliefs, and keep an open mind.

we just want her to come and partake of being with her family....during these family times.

TheSilence

Shouldn't this be a tipoff?

I try not to be too jaded, and offering a bit of advice is not putting so much of myself out there that I wouldn't be willing to risk it. It costs me nothing but a few minutes to type a reply. And even if all does not pan out... perhaps someone lurking but afraid to post the very same question will find some use for what advice is given.

Jackie

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My Daugthers refusal to join us for secular holidays!

by KARINNJIM in

i don't understand, why my daugther refuses to come to her home during both thanksgiving and christmas.

we are trying to understand her beliefs, and keep an open mind.

we just want her to come and partake of being with her family....during these family times.

TheSilence

if you had a daugther, how would you separate her from this church and not really choose a religion for her, but bring her back into her loving family.

My dad is a witness and raised us in the religion. My mom never agreed. My dad was hospitalized when my younger sister was 16 and so my sister had to move back with my mom until that situation was ended. My mom didn't want my sister to go to the meetings so my sister threatened to run away and hide with various witnesses if my mom wouldn't let her attend. The agreement they came to was that my mom would let her attend meetings if my sister would see a therapist.

My mom talked to the therapist beforehand and explained that she felt my sister was brainwashed and in a cult. The therapist said she had never heard any such thing about the witnesses and felt my mom was probably overreacting, but agreed to sit down with my sister to assess the situation. After an hour with my sister the therapist asked to speak with my mom again. The therapist said my mom was absolutely right... and at that point there was nothing my mom could do about it. Trying to pry my sister away from her faith was only going to push her further and further away. The therapist's advice was to try to keep the peace, remain as close as possible, and maintain a bond so that if my sister ever got to the point where she wanted out she had that relationship as a lifeline.

That being said, my sister was raised in the religion, I gather your daughter was not. My sister had been indoctrinated for many, many years. I don't know the situation with your daughter. I think giving you advice is premature without knowing just how long your daughter has studied or how far in she is. If she is already fully indoctrinated, for lack of a better term, my advice is the same as the therapist's. However, if she is newly studying and just now starting to cut off holidays and family time then perhaps she would be more open to you showing her some of the errors, fallacies, manipulations, etc. that are so prevalent within the organization. However, you have to be careful in how you do it. She has been told that her family and friends will object and that this is the persecution they face for having the truth... so tread lightly or you are only proving an obvious prediction they have already made.

It's a tough tightrope to walk, and I wish you all the best with it. I hope you find some way to get her out before she becomes too entrenched.

Best of luck,

Jackie

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Help! I have a Xmas tree in my house!

by momzcrazy in

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i am sitting here looking at my very first christmas tree set up in the foyer.

a very good friend gave us a prelit 6 ft tree.

my husband brought it home last night and i just couldn't stand it anymore!.

TheSilence

O_Christmas_Tree_by_aragornbird.jpg picture by TheSilence824

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Help! I have a Xmas tree in my house!

by momzcrazy in

jw
friends

i am sitting here looking at my very first christmas tree set up in the foyer.

a very good friend gave us a prelit 6 ft tree.

my husband brought it home last night and i just couldn't stand it anymore!.

TheSilence

Congratulations! I love putting the tree up every year. I love the real ones because I love the smell it brings to the house. It looks *and* smells Christmassy (is that a word?) that way. My favorite ornaments are ones my nieces and nephews have made for me. I highly recommend you do this with your kids... it's a fun Christmas project, adds to your tree, gives you memories to put up every year for the rest of your life, and they can make ornaments for anyone else in your life who celebrates that you guys care about, too.

Most of all just have a wonderful, wonderful, wonderful first Christmas!

I'm listening to Christmas music as we speak. I love the Trans-Siberian Orchestra!

Jackie

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BEFORE and AFTER

by Gretchen956 in

i was getting a chuckle about the placement of thread titles this morning:.

criticize constructively - stupid idiots at the meeting.

singing thread - another take on the new wt format.

TheSilence

What JW beliefs do you still share... Story telling 3 words at a time.

Jackie

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Another name to add to the list of things I've been called.

by TheSilence in

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friends

at work tonight someone came in with a t-shirt that read in large, bold print on the back of his shirt, "muslims suck!

" as the manager on duty i had the enjoyable task of approaching this very reasonable (tongue in cheek) fellow and explaining to him that our policy did not allow for such t-shirts and he would, therefore, have to either turn it inside out so it couldn't be read or he would be asked to leave.

his reply, "you're a f***ing muslim loving b***h!".

TheSilence

Good for you Jackie! Sounds like you are not "Silent" when you must speak up to bullies!

I like it when a woman is able to stand up to creeps.

Well, thank you... but don't give me too many kudos. In this instance I was merely doing the job I get paid to do ;)

Jackie

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Another name to add to the list of things I've been called.

by TheSilence in

jw
friends

at work tonight someone came in with a t-shirt that read in large, bold print on the back of his shirt, "muslims suck!

" as the manager on duty i had the enjoyable task of approaching this very reasonable (tongue in cheek) fellow and explaining to him that our policy did not allow for such t-shirts and he would, therefore, have to either turn it inside out so it couldn't be read or he would be asked to leave.

his reply, "you're a f***ing muslim loving b***h!".

TheSilence

I love being called names by fools. I smile and lap it up.

I find it quite amusing myself. Sometimes I find it quite difficult not to laugh while the situation is going on. Unless, of course, the name calling is coming from someone I actually care about ;)

Jackie