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  Can you let go?

  by whyamihere in

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  as i was sitting in a restaurant with my friend briana(ex-jw), we started talking about how we see other ex-jw's inability to let go.

  i know many have suffered and endured horrific events or trials as jw's, which i assume it would be hard to let go.

  though, do we really have the ability to let go lead a normal life with not thinking twice or having fear in our actions?.

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  sandy

  Brooke,
  
  I ask myself these questions all the time. I wonder if talking on this website is healthy for me. I wonder if I'll always seek out ex-witnesses. I wonder if the panic attacks (even though I can control them and even prevent them now) will ever completely go away.
  
  Blondie is right, we cannot erase our past . . . But I wonder if we should always be reminding ourselves of our past.
  
  I'm not judging anyone either, these are just questions/thoughts that run through my head as well.
  
  As far as my family is concerned, they have it in my heads that I didn't really have accurate knowledge when I got baptized at 13. That is how they justify to themselves that it is okay not to shun me.
  
  Thank goodness for that!
  
  I still don't talk to them about the ex-jw stuff because I worry about how they'll handle it within themselves. I don't know if some of them are mentally stable enough to hear the truth about the "truth"
  
  I am dead serious about that. MY sister I am afraid will lose her mind.
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  Who do you love more?

  by serendipity in

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  my uncle ocasionally complains about how my aunt loves her adult children more than him because she's always thinking about them, worrying about them and reaching out to them.

  i think that's a surprising viewpoint because i thought that most mothers (and many fathers) love their children above all others.. do you think that's true?

  should a parent love their children more than the spouse (or significant other)?

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  I don't have any children yet . . . But if I did I would give up my life for my child, any child actually, and I know my fiance feels the same way.
  
  And the two of us would give up our lives for one another as well.
  
  I believe if you marry somebody with kids it should be someone that believes all children are precious and all children's needs should come before parents/step=parents own desires and needs.
  
  
  So I don't think the question: "Who do you love more?" should ever be asked.
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  Be Honest: Did You ACTUALLY Report Accurate Field Service Time?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  i bet most people did not.

  i think nearly everyone counted time spent on breaks.

  or sitting in the car for an hour and a half while the elders did a "shepherding" call.

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  sandy

  I think I always cheated a little especially the months I pioneered for the Lord.
  
  But I totally lied when I started becoming spritually weak. At about 19 years old I started missing a lot of meetings and hardly ever went out on field service.
  
  For a while I lied on my reports and always reported at least or close to the national average.
  
  But after a while I started to get paranoid, and rightly so, I was missing 80% of meetings and NEVER out on field service. I figured the elders would start to suspect I was lying.
  
  So I dropped my field service time to one hour per month. LOL And I only reported this because the "Timekeeper Elder" - I forget now what his title was, would always call me right before he sent in the time to the "Society" and ask me if I had anything to report.
  
  So I succumbed to peer pressure and lied about my time. LOL
  
  It is all so funny to me now. But I really used to feel so guilty, well more afraid, over it. I used to think Jehovah would never save me for lying about this.
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  Went to a witness party....oh, excuse me, "gathering" over the weekend.....

  by enlightenedcynic in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the mrs. and i were invited to a "gathering" this weekend.

  was just supposed to be some friends getting together for some food and fellowship.

  when we arrived, there were a bunch of jw's in the back yard(50 to 100) and the music was pumping loud(not that i minded{smile}).

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  sandy

  I think you find this tpe of behavior more in the metropolitan areas. I've been to so many dub parties where you couldn't even tell the difference between a "wordly" part and a JW party.
  
  I wouldn't be surprised if in the aftermath of the party a "local needs" talk is given in the coming weeks.
  
  
  I remember going to this huge party out on some ranch area in a remote area of San Diego w/ a friend of mine. A couple weeks later my friends elders gave a "local needs" talk about how going out to remote places for parties is a big no no . . . The parties were too big and uncontollable and naturally resulted in brother/sisters engaging in immoral conduct.
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  YOUR LAST MEETING.........................

  by vitty in

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  ........................at my last meeting, the elder was talking about 1975 and said "it never happened, it is appostates using a time when (some) brothers took the info in the wt wrong"...................i just blinked and finally woke up.. i had been on this site lurking for a couple of weeks, and realized thing werent right, but to have some creep say on the platform " it didnt happen"............when this ruined my and my siblings childhood, just made me snap.

  on the way home, i told my hubby "that was the last meeting im going to"................boy was he pleased.. .

  so if you didnt get df ......................what happened at your last meeting.?.

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  At my last meeting I was sitting there during the Sunday WT lesson feeling very uncomfortable because I'd recently been before the elders confessing all my sins. I felt dirty, weak, and totally uncomfortable arounf all the "friend" especially the elders. Ok, during the WT study a lady gave her comment/answer to one of the questions and said . . . blah blah blah . . . and so as J-dubs we'd never consider suicide . . . not sure of exact words or what the WT lesson was about. But right after this comment she looked over in my direction. I wanted to craw under my chair . . . I was so humiliated thinking that this lady knew about some of the things I said to the elders in my JC meeting. Her step-father was one of the elders on the committee. And I know for a fact he used to tell him wife, at the very least, what went on in those meetings he sat on. I never went back after that. I used to tell my family I'd go back, to a different congregation but I never did. Thank goodness!
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  So....here's my story....

  by CordyC in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey guys, it's me- cordy, again with my life story of being in the jws.

  i've lived in new york city almost all of my life and have been associated with the jws way too long- since i was a little kid- 8 years old in 1987, plus my mom studied as early as 1983. my mom didn't get baptized until 1995 and i myself got baptized at the age of 17 iin 1996. i know we were probably on a list at some point as a "non-progressive" bible study since it took us so long to get baptized.

  my mom and dad split in 1993 and that year was great because we were barely at meetings....then we got a shepherding call and my mom got sucked right back in.

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  sandy

  That is very kind of you to help your mom out w/ finances. I'm so tired I wanted to post more but I cannot even think straight right now. I hope your situation improves real soon. Good night . . .
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  WT desparate: Aug 15 WT- In Our Next Issue: When A Loved One Leaves Jehovah

  by truthseeker in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  no, i don't have this article yet, it will appear in the sep 1, 2006 wt.

  it may even be a wt study article.. in the august 15 watchtower, the box "in our next issue" has three forthcoming articles, and one of them is "when a loved one leaves jehovah".

  of interest, it's not when a loved one leaves the society, it's jehovah.. will keep you posted.

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  sandy

  12/01/2001 pg. 30-31 <-------->
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  Gregg Stafford returning to the Big O

  by Amazing in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  greg stafford posted on july 1, 2006 that he is returning to the organization.

  you can read his article at: http://www.elihubooks.com/greg-stafford/another.htm.

  his rationale and logic are most interesting.

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  sandy

  I don't get it either . . . how this guy can go back to the org after learning the real truth behind it all. Maybe this is just a ploy. Maybe he is going undercover to try and get people out.
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  Pets

  by sandy in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i want to upload some pictures here of my dogs.

  will someone tell me how to do it?

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  sandy

  Everyone, your dogs and cats are so adorable! Keep the pictures coming. P.S. I still don't see the paper clip.
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  Pets

  by sandy in

  1. social
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  i want to upload some pictures here of my dogs.

  will someone tell me how to do it?

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  sandy

  Hi Snoozy, Thanks for the comments. They love, love, love to dig holes. OMG!!! We have a bigger yard now and they have already expressed how much the appreciate it. It looks like they are trying to build tunnels. I'm not sure how much they way right now. We're worried about Phoebe (Lab) right now because she seems under-weight. I'm actually taking her to the Vet tomorrow. She's eating okay but she seems to be losing weight. She is a big chicken herself. The fireworks are driving her crazy. I feel so bad for her. She is scared of water too. We try to keep them cool when we are home. Chico (Shepherd) loves when we run the hose on him. Phoebe runs for her life. They are completely opposite with one exception, they are both really sweet dogs.