Posts by Miss.Fit

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Sticky situations

by Sammy Jenkis in

i was remembering today this situation that i let get out of hand because i was too damaged to let my co-workers and my boss know i was a jw when i was still inside.

it was hard to explain to people something so foreign and out of this world as being a witness and never before had the difficulty been as hard as when one of our co-workers birthdays came around.. i dreaded the moment because i'd played pretty cool and dodged any questions that might reveal my religious inclinations.. but:.

my boss came over to my desk and gave me this card to sign, she asked if i'd like to sign it.

Miss.Fit

Hi Sammy Jenkis

I also have chosen not to let anyone at my work know I was a JW. I did not feel I fit the discription. I have fading in and out for years. When I first started my present job I had been inactive for awhile.

I never identified as a JW because I didn't feel like one.

I work in a public educational setting. So we do programs that are sometimes centered around holiday themes. I would be assigned to go to different functions like halloween or chistmas themed events to read to the kids.

I am not sure if I was having trouble staying in or staying out. My training was so strong that I would feel guilty and when a Sister I really liked started visiting me I started to go back to the meetings.

I had painted myself in a corner. How could I go to my co-workers and tell them I was a J W? So I kept putting it off.

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Elders' Gems of Wisdom

by stephenw20 in

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my dad asked the co about this one.

mat 27:52-53. and the graves were opened; and many bodies of the saints which slept arose, .

and came out of the graves after his resurrection, and went into the holy city, and appeared unto many.

Miss.Fit

http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/48743/4/Whats-The-STRANGEST-Thing-Youve-Seen-At-A-Kingdom-Hall

I hope more people will post their stories. If you are enjoying this thread vist the link for some more laughs. It made my day.

Miss.Fit

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This is my first time. Please be patient.

by Miss.Fit in

i have never posted before.

i have been lurking for a few days and have decided to give it a try.

the subject of child abuse caught my eye.

Miss.Fit

Lois and Nugget: thank you for your comments. You have given me a lot to think about. Nugget: your summation was so accurate. I have been in more denial than I thought.

Lois I agree. I am starting to understand.

MF: Great Minds think alike ...lol. sorry I took your name. I didn't know how to change it when I saw yours. Thanks for the welcome. Yes I do feel like a misfit. I have been in and out for almost 30 years. Im not sure if im struggling to leave or to stay.

Robert: thanks for the info. I will experiment.

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Prayers that God answers. Any examples?

by punkofnice in

when i believed in god i tried not to pray for anything selfish.. after a while i began to think that a lot of things i was asking my imaginary friend in the sky for were selfish for some reason.. i do not ever remember a single thing i prayed for ever being answered.

if there was the appearance of an answer it was because i did mental gymnastics to make it fit the delusion that god had actually answered me.

there was never an obvious message/answer from god.

Miss.Fit

Humbled : lol I love reading your posts. I can tell you are a fighter . im rooting for you.

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This is my first time. Please be patient.

by Miss.Fit in

i have never posted before.

i have been lurking for a few days and have decided to give it a try.

the subject of child abuse caught my eye.

Miss.Fit

http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watcht

ower/child-abuse/257282/1/Britain-Jehovahs-Witnesses-hushed-up-child-sex-scandal-July-16-2013

This is pretty much how our molester acted when the Elders confronted him except he blamed demons.

I can't understand why child abuse is not considered a serious matter in the congergations. They df for adultery, for expressing a different view but a child molester just needs to tear up and say sorry I was drunk or the devil made me do it and the elders say ok just dont do it again. Apalling. Thats how my FP dad played the elders. These molesters are master manipulaters. They tell a sob story and make everyone feel sorry for them and forget about the victim.

Maybe if they had some women on their JC something would get done.

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Prayers that God answers. Any examples?

by punkofnice in

when i believed in god i tried not to pray for anything selfish.. after a while i began to think that a lot of things i was asking my imaginary friend in the sky for were selfish for some reason.. i do not ever remember a single thing i prayed for ever being answered.

if there was the appearance of an answer it was because i did mental gymnastics to make it fit the delusion that god had actually answered me.

there was never an obvious message/answer from god.

Miss.Fit

Concrete Proof

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Powerfully heart-wrenching experience by FORMER BETHLITE

by Black Man in

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just wanting to post an experience by a former bethelite.

the first part was just published with the other two coming overt the next couple of weeks.

click the link.

Miss.Fit

Moving story. Really made me think about some things.

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Open letter Re: Mr. Bowen, Mrs. Anderson

by Prime in

"jws leaders need to mandate elder bodies to uniformly report abuse to the authorities no matter what jurisdiction; prohibit elders from being involved in any investigative process to decide guilt or innocence in place of the authorities; do away with the two-witness rule to determine, as if they were magistrates, guilt or innocence of someone accused; prohibit so-called repentant molesters from engaging in the door-to-door ministry, and always inform the congregation if a convicted or confessed molester is meeting with them.

" -barbara anderson .

this is another reason why the watchtower society doesn't require that the elders uniformly report abuse to the authorities no matter what jurisdiction.

Miss.Fit

Sorry having problems with my browser.

We knew about the 2 witness rule. So did he. Thats why he threatened them and told them not to tell each other.

I pleaded with them to come forward. One sister was 13 and the other was 10. I knew I couldn' t becUsit was hear say if they did not back me up.

The thing was we knew what he was doing was wrong and that he had no business being an elder. We had other reasons for not calling the authorities but we knew we could call the elders. They were there to protect us.

I won' t go into the details but we did end up coming foward. It was hard. The elders never told us we had the option to go to the authorities. They let my mom make the decision we were not consulted.

I don't knowif things are done differently now, but I feel like we did not have someone looking out for us. All the adults had their iwn agenda.

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Open letter Re: Mr. Bowen, Mrs. Anderson

by Prime in

"jws leaders need to mandate elder bodies to uniformly report abuse to the authorities no matter what jurisdiction; prohibit elders from being involved in any investigative process to decide guilt or innocence in place of the authorities; do away with the two-witness rule to determine, as if they were magistrates, guilt or innocence of someone accused; prohibit so-called repentant molesters from engaging in the door-to-door ministry, and always inform the congregation if a convicted or confessed molester is meeting with them.

" -barbara anderson .

this is another reason why the watchtower society doesn't require that the elders uniformly report abuse to the authorities no matter what jurisdiction.

Miss.Fit

Prime: something to think about when you are quoting policies and legalities:

Most children in the "Truth" are taught that the elders are there to protect them. Sometimes they are the only ones the child can turn to. In an abusive situation the child has been conditioned to live and keep a secret. Especially if the child has been raised in the "Truth". The idea of not bringing reproach on Jehovah's Organization is deeply ingrained.

This is a weapon the abuser can use to manipulate the victim to remain silent. The thing is this child is usually trained to know what he is doing is wrong.

Try to imagin the courage it would take for that child to come forward. They are counting on the elders to protect them and put their interests first. They were taught if someone is doing something wrong go to the elders. They are expecting the elders to take care of it.

You might not have had to deal with a case but I lived it. Let me tell you. I 12 when I discovered what my elder dad was doing to my sister. it had been going on for years. I found out because he started on another one of my sisters and she told me.

Guess what one of the first things she said? If we tell they will remove him as an elder it could stumble somone. If he goes to jail it will bring reproach on Gods name.

Even at 12 , I knew the 2 witness rule. I tried to get my sisters to tell. I knewI

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This is my first time. Please be patient.

by Miss.Fit in

i have never posted before.

i have been lurking for a few days and have decided to give it a try.

the subject of child abuse caught my eye.

Miss.Fit

SAHS: I did not realize how deeply I was conditioned to keeping the secret until I read your post. I experiencef an extreme knee jerk reaction. I read report to authorities and I shut down.

Iown Mylife: thank you for bteaking down SAHS main point:about victims achieving closure by seeking justice.

Also thank you to everyone else for your support and advice. Rereading your posts made me realize that a lot of you knew what I was doing and were giving me gentle proddings.

My phone keeps dropping my posts before I can submit. I will post some more about the control and power those people had over us and how mom found out.

Ps can anyone yell me how you use the quote button?