so today, two elders from a congregation i was in two years ago came by the house.
they said they wanted to talk to me about things that they have heard, and that they want to talk to me very quickly, as soon as possible.
perhaps before this week ends.. i don't know what to do!!
All you have to say is....I cannot meet with you (and say it very nicely and forceful). If they ask for another date....just say, "No not at this time". DO NOT EXPLAIN YOURSELF.
They will probably continue to ask questions, just listen politely...but do no answer...just say thanks for calling or your concern. But I need to go now....goodbye
This is a lesson that is important not just with JW, but with others. It's your life, time, journey, etc. and you control who you want to include.
i read about the new tract distribution and thought to myself how should i react, when they come to my door.
finally today, after finishing my morning coffee, i got an idea!
i'll take the tract, look at it, look at them, and with a nice smile rip it up and hand it back to them with :"have a great day!
Hortenzie....I'm not assuming. I'm going by what you stated....you want to pass judgment on those at your door...when they are probably heeding the same advice...the internet is evil.
I left 13 years ago...because of the internet...but also because of people giving me some things to think about when I was out in the Field Service.
You can do as you please...but the only person who will be affected is you....you will just help the JW in their beliefs and if non JW would see this, they will think you are crazy or very angry.
i read about the new tract distribution and thought to myself how should i react, when they come to my door.
finally today, after finishing my morning coffee, i got an idea!
i'll take the tract, look at it, look at them, and with a nice smile rip it up and hand it back to them with :"have a great day!
Hortenzie...if you came into the JW organization 15 years ago. Why didn't you look this information up? this explains why it's disrespectful...you bought into it.
This is your statement: Ignorance is a choice and in this "Information age" it is not even an excuse, any longer.
But I ultimately think you shouldn't give out anything you don't want in return. If you want people to dismiss your thoughts or your journey with anger...then rip up the literature. But if you want compassion and understanding of your current journey. You can refuse to take the literature and give your reason. Or take the literature and give them a take away (or plant a seed).
Anytime a JW speak with me...I always tell them to look up their religions history. If it's a young person...I tell them when i was 17 years old...I was told not to pursue education because the end was so near...then I let them know, I'm now a Grandmother. To not waste their life for an end times organization.
i read about the new tract distribution and thought to myself how should i react, when they come to my door.
finally today, after finishing my morning coffee, i got an idea!
i'll take the tract, look at it, look at them, and with a nice smile rip it up and hand it back to them with :"have a great day!
If you want to attract disrespect. No matter what your beliefs....I truly believe what you put out you will get back.
The best strategy is to act like you don't know that they are shunning you. You should have behaved as usual.....I would have said hello, how's everyone doing.
When my elder father has reminded us (my 4 siblings) that he cannot associate with my 2 disfellowshipped siblings and he should not be talking to me (I'm not DA or Disfellowshiped officially...but have not attended a KH in 12 yrs and is an active member of my church). We tell him we understand, but we cannot shunn you. So we will speak and we will talk to you, purchase you gifts, invite you to dinner and outings and if you choose not to reciprocate that is on you.
...this has been very effective, because he attends are children's events, will talk with us...just not spiritual matters (his words lol).
So I suggest you get really comfortable with yourself and speak to them....this will help you to keep your power.
i'll let the video speak for itself!
she actually gets choked up in the middle.... .
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0hdztvh8mvw.
Love Love this Song!!!!
okay people i have a new video that some of you may be interested in- i believe it is the only one of its kind online.
three elders meet with a young female that knows ttatt and is trying to get back into the jws for family reasons.
the audio also includes the three elders disagreeing and deliberating after she is dismissed from the room and then when they call her back in.
I could not listen to the whole recording. My stomach is tied in a knot and I'm overwhelmed with anger. How in the hell can they say disfellowshipping someone is love.
This is horrible!!!!
the things they take from you:.
first they take your childhoodthen they take your familyfinally they take your memorieswe all know that you limit your social interactions so you have few school friends who are not jws.
they openly promote this in their magazines and it's repeated at meetings throughout your formative years.
Simon,
This is the sad reality of belonging to a cult.
My boyfriend has strong family relations, high school buddies, college buddies, fraternity buddies, corporate buddies; his kids are still friends with people he grew up with, plus they have all of these ties and memories. He's 61 years old...so you can picture the friendships he has developed without barriers.
So then there's me...raise a JW. I've been out for 15 years...but starting friendships at 30 years old, is totally different then starting them in your formative years. So most of the time, when I'm socializing with him and my newly formed friends, I feel like a social retard.
But I look on the bright side...I left when my children were ages 3 and 11, so they have been able to form life long bonds with friends. They were able to join the boy scouts, participate in sports, join the army and alot of other activities in life that help you make some wonderful bonds and to know what true brotherhood, sisterhood relationship are.
hi guys...is it me...i am beginning to wonder: is a happy ex-jw a target?
i have had a few run ins this week on fb with random jws trying to check me for things that have absolutely nothing to do with the org.
(please dont ask me why they have not un-friended me!
SophieG...I wish you continue Happiness... Isn't FREEDOM the BEST!!!! And learning is definitely Freedom...it's just so wonderful.
...and I feel the pain in the JW (non committed JW) responses. She/he want to be free, but is letting fear stop them. And yes the irony is that this person has never committed to the JW faith. You want to speak about being lukewarm (lol) and can't see because that big ol log is in her eyes...too funny. This exchange really has made me laugh and have put a big ol smile on my face to know that I'm so happy to be freed from the JW organization and it's followers.
hi guys...is it me...i am beginning to wonder: is a happy ex-jw a target?
i have had a few run ins this week on fb with random jws trying to check me for things that have absolutely nothing to do with the org.
(please dont ask me why they have not un-friended me!
LOL...This is so funny!!!
I have been out for 12 years and definitely HAPPY!!!
But every chance that my father can get...he will tell me that my siblings and I are not truly Happy. I always laugh at him and say...YES I AM...and you saying this just reminded me why I'm so happy...NO MY JW thinking.
